Are paid dating apps worth the money compared to free ones?

about four months of trying to work out paid dating apps, after deleting everything and starting fresh, and the picture is messier than people admit.

What wore me down was that for ordinary users, the match queue seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking.

When picking one and committing is the issue, how long you leave a conversation running matters more than whether it has a swipe interface.

Specifically, on paid dating apps, what I would like input on:

• Is that a regional thing once you factor in picking one and committing?
• Does that match what others see with apps that do not charge?
• Has that changed since the last update when picking one and committing is the main worry?
• Is that worth the time investment outside a mid-sized city?
• Is that a regional thing outside a mid-sized city?

One honest account of paid dating apps beats ten listicles.

The one change that worked was dropping the filters — it produced better matches within about ten days.

My working theory is that which platform you picked gets the credit but the response you give to a low-effort opener does the work when it comes to paid dating apps.

What actually frustrates me is that the support inbox makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones.

Where it falls down is that the distance filter surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months, which is the real problem with apps that don't charge.

On balance, for most of us, whether the photos look like the same person tends to decide how long a conversation lasts for most of us.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that for ordinary users, the notification system collapses once you move outside a major city.

Something worth knowing: how narrow your filters are does more for whether anything reaches a first meeting than whether it has a swipe interface for ordinary users in the the paid dating apps question context.

For ordinary users, suggesting a meeting inside two weeks got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

More often than not, the quality of your first message is a better predictor of match quality than which tier you are on for most of us.

Adding Flurrydate to the list — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

Open to being wrong especially for ordinary users.

Cutting the match list right down made conversations last past the first exchange, which surprised me for most of us.

My working theory is that for most of us, how long you leave a conversation running tends to decide how many replies you get in a week for ordinary users.

The pattern I keep seeing is that nothing changes the odds of a second date as much as the clarity of your main photo.

For a straight comparison, Luvdate and there is no paywall on the basics.

The pattern I keep seeing is that how often you open the app is a better predictor of whether anything reaches a first meeting than which tier you're on when it comes to paid dating apps.

Does anyone know if that still holds across apps that do not charge?