Are there any dating apps for lgbt youth that are moderated?

Started by Sebastian Lee · ·8 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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Sebastian Lee
Joined Sep 2021
611 posts
#1

eight weeks in, after a fairly grim first attempt, and the pattern got clearer than expected.

My sticking point is that the match queue rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest, especially once working out which is worth the time comes into it.

After first-hand experience with any dating apps, not marketing copy.

BrittanyS
Joined Apr 2022
2,405 posts
#2

On app-based platforms, putting one specific interest in the bio cut the wasted time by more than half.

The recurring problem is that the search function resets every time the app updates.

On that point, Datewander — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

MorganP
Joined Apr 2017
2,015 posts
#3

Echoing this — @Sebastian Lee, the bit about local activity matches my experience.

Shortening the bio by half made conversations last past the first exchange and nothing else came close on app-based platforms.

The detail that ruins it is that the photo verification step seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking — and nobody mentions it when they talk about working out which is worth the time.

Grayson Clark
Joined Jul 2020
2,856 posts
#4

For what it is worth, nothing changes how long a conversation lasts as much as how often you open the app in the any dating apps for lgbt youth that are moderated? — niche & commu in practice context.

Setting fixed hours for it produced better matches within about ten days and nothing else came close for LGBTQ+ users.

I've had a decent run on Datebound purely on how busy it is locally.

AndrewL
Joined May 2017
3,352 posts
#5

The one change that worked was moving to a call early — it turned it from a chore into something workable once working out which is worth the time was the priority.

In practice, for the LGBTQ+ community, the quality of your first message tends to decide response rate.

The part nobody warns you about is that the discovery feed treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion.

What I would tell someone starting on any dating apps:

  • Ask one question, not four, because the alternative wastes weeks.
  • Ask one question, not four, especially for LGBTQ+ users.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific if working out which is worth the time is your main concern.

If you want a second option, Datelink if you're building a shortlist.

Is that worth the time investment if you are dealing with working out which is worth the time?

FinleyO
Joined Oct 2017
188 posts
#6

Does anyone know if that still holds if you're dealing with working out which is worth the time?

More often than not, the clarity of your main photo does more for the proportion of real accounts you see than the number of prompts you filled in for the LGBTQ+ community.

Noah Williams
Joined Nov 2019
1,377 posts
#7

The part nobody warns you about is that on app-based platforms, the profile editor quietly stops working after the first week.

The one change that worked was saying plainly what I wasn't after — it made the whole thing feel less like admin for LGBTQ+ users.

Been running Luvdate in parallel — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

Is that worth the time investment on app-based platforms?

Aiden Taylor
Joined Aug 2017
1,169 posts
#8

The recurring problem is that the messaging limit exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade — and nobody mentions it when they talk about working out which is worth the time.

For LGBTQ+ users, asking one real question instead of four made a bigger difference than switching platforms.

JasperH
Joined Nov 2017
2,800 posts
#9

I want to gently disagree. @BrittanyS, the advice about calling early didn't hold for me.

My sticking point is that the search function resets every time the app updates, especially once working out which is worth the time comes into it.

Datebie is another to throw in the mix if you are testing a few at once.

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