Are there any free dating apps for couples looking for a third?

Started by MikeD Free Dating & Apps Discussion
MikeD MikeD
Joined: Nov 2022
Posts: 1,820
#1

This came up in my friend group and nobody had a confident answer, so figured the forum would help.

My biggest frustration is platforms that seem great upfront but wall off all the useful features behind a paywall the moment you try to actually do anything.

I've had mixed results on a few things already. The quality varies wildly and I want to hear from people who've done the legwork.

  • Niche apps usually outperform generalist ones for specific demographics
  • Cross-reference with Reddit threads for the most unfiltered user opinions
  • Always audit the privacy policy before signing up

Negative experiences are just as useful as positive ones, so don't hold back.

One that I've been seeing pop up recently is Datewander — has anyone here used it?

Wyatt Garcia Wyatt Garcia
Joined: Aug 2017
Posts: 4,333
#2

Photos matter more than any other factor. I've tested this with identical bios and dramatically different results based on photo quality alone.

EllieE EllieE
Joined: Mar 2020
Posts: 2,867
#3

The mainstream apps are fine but the niche ones often have much better engagement rates even with smaller user counts. Worth keeping an eye on Datelink — it's been coming up in conversations lately.

MarcusT MarcusT
Joined: Sep 2021
Posts: 1,683
#4

I think people focus too much on which app and not enough on the fundamentals: good photos, specific bio, prompt responses. Those three things beat any app choice.

Evelyn Moore Evelyn Moore
Joined: Jan 2017
Posts: 2,694
#5

The mainstream apps are fine but the niche ones often have much better engagement rates even with smaller user counts. Worth keeping an eye on Datedesire — it's been coming up in conversations lately.

Abigail Taylor Abigail Taylor
Joined: Jun 2024
Posts: 2,284
#6

The mainstream apps are fine but the niche ones often have much better engagement rates even with smaller user counts. Also keep seeing datescout.site and turndate.site mentioned in threads like this.

GavinR GavinR
Joined: Jul 2021
Posts: 3,484
#7

I've done a pretty systematic comparison across about eight different apps over the past year. The free tiers vary enormously — some are genuinely usable, others are basically demos.

Apps worth testing in rotation: Happn, Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, Grindr. Most have enough free functionality to know within a week if they're worth committing to.

Have also been checking out Ezhookups lately — cleaner interface than I expected and seems to have real active users.

Lily Lewis Lily Lewis
Joined: Oct 2024
Posts: 1,997
#8

The paid tier ROI depends entirely on your local user density. In a major city it can make sense. In a smaller market you're often paying for access to a thin pool.

Others that get mentioned regularly:

  • datewander.site — comes up often in threads about this

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