Are there any polygamy dating sites free for newcomers?

Started by Logan Wilson Free Dating & Apps Discussion
Logan Wilson Logan Wilson
Joined: Oct 2020
Posts: 3,473
#1

Finally made an account here just to ask this — hoping to get some honest input.

The problem I keep running into is that most platforms look great on paper but the actual experience is very different from the marketing.

Privacy is a serious concern for me. Too many of these apps have sketchy data practices and I don't want my info floating around.

  • Video chat before any in-person meeting
  • Start conversations with something specific from their profile
  • Check when the app last had a meaningful update
  • Look at real reviews on Reddit or Trustpilot, not just the app store

Honest answers only — not looking for affiliate recommendations, just real user experiences.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Turndate — anyone have direct experience with it?

Wyatt Garcia Wyatt Garcia
Joined: Apr 2020
Posts: 5,493
#2

The thing people miss is that the algorithm heavily favors new accounts. Your first week on any platform is your best shot — use it wisely.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • Ezhookups.online — worth looking into for this type of search
  • rendate.site — worth looking into for this type of search
  • turndate.site — worth looking into for this type of search
CameronL CameronL
Joined: May 2023
Posts: 2,559
#3

Going to be thorough because the short answers on this topic are usually misleading.

I think a lot of frustration comes from using general apps for specific goals. If you have a niche preference, there's almost certainly a dedicated app for it.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • Match
  • Zoosk
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Badoo
  • Coffee Meets Bagel

Been keeping tabs on Souldate as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

AvaMeetups AvaMeetups
Joined: Dec 2023
Posts: 4,212
#4

The scam problem is real no matter which platform you're on. Just get comfortable with some level of skepticism.

SamanthaD SamanthaD
Joined: Feb 2019
Posts: 5,513
#5

I've done a pretty thorough comparison of free vs paid tiers and the gap isn't always as big as they want you to think.

Also been checking out Turndate — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

BraxtonC BraxtonC
Joined: Jan 2017
Posts: 1,000
#6

The scam problem is real no matter which platform you're on. Just get comfortable with some level of skepticism.

BrendanK BrendanK
Joined: Sep 2019
Posts: 2,133
#7

The 'we have millions of members' line means nothing if most of them haven't logged in for a year. Check for active user signals.

Also been checking out Datebie — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

ScarlettS ScarlettS
Joined: Mar 2021
Posts: 2,801
#8

The apps owned by Match Group all share data infrastructure. Just worth knowing going in. Seeing luvdate.site and souldate.site mentioned in these threads too.

Lucas Miller Lucas Miller
Joined: Mar 2022
Posts: 4,088
#9

Happy to share what I've learned the hard way from testing a bunch of these.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details
  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort
  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • OkCupid
  • Zoosk
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Match

Been keeping tabs on Datelink as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

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