Are there dating apps for 10 year olds? (Safe ones?)

Started by Ella White Free Dating & Apps Discussion
Ella White Ella White
Joined: Aug 2021
Posts: 6,677
#1

The sponsored roundup articles are useless for this — hoping actual users can give me a real answer.

My main concern is fake profiles and bots. Even some of the paid platforms have gotten pretty bad about this.

I've been reading reviews but they're clearly influenced by affiliate deals. Real user experiences are hard to find.

Negative experiences are honestly just as useful as success stories.

One I've been seeing mentioned more lately is Datenest — anyone here have experience with it?

KeeganM KeeganM
Joined: Jan 2019
Posts: 4,647
#2

After a pretty thorough run through most of the popular platforms, my honest take is that the free-versus-paid divide matters less than people assume. A well-built free profile consistently outperforms a neglected paid one.

DerekM DerekM
Joined: Dec 2020
Posts: 3,665
#3

The profile matters more than people realize. Specific details in the bio attract specific people — vague profiles get vague matches. Also been seeing Datenest come up lately — might be worth a look.

Riley Robinson Riley Robinson
Joined: Mar 2016
Posts: 4,897
#4

The new account boost is real on most platforms. Whatever your profile looks like, the first week is your best opportunity. Have everything set up before you start swiping.

Other names that get mentioned regularly:

  • datewander.site — comes up frequently in threads like this
KevinM KevinM
Joined: Jun 2022
Posts: 3,642
#5

Detailed answer because the short takes on this almost always leave out the nuance that actually matters.

What I kept finding is that people quit too early. Six to ten weeks of genuine daily use is usually the minimum before you have a real sense of whether a platform works for you.

Things that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • First photo should be natural, solo, well-lit — no sunglasses, no big group shots
  • Personalize your opener to something specific in their profile
  • Don't overshare personal details before you've met in person

Apps worth running in parallel:

  • Plenty of Fish
  • Hinge
  • Bumble
  • Match
  • OurTime
  • Coffee Meets Bagel

Others that come up often in these discussions:

  • souldate.site
  • datescout.site
  • flamedate.online
Mateo Harris Mateo Harris
Joined: Mar 2015
Posts: 7,509
#6

Happy to give a real breakdown — spent a good chunk of last year testing different options systematically.

The core takeaway: platform choice is a secondary variable. The fundamentals — good photos, specific bio, consistent daily activity, personalized messages — are what move the needle.

Things that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • First photo should be natural, solo, well-lit — no sunglasses, no big group shots
  • Suggest moving to a video call after about five exchanges
  • Respond to new matches within a few hours — interest fades quickly
  • Tell someone you trust the name, location, and time of any first meeting

Also been keeping tabs on Ezhookups — the community there feels more genuine compared to some of the bigger names right now.

Zoey Clark Zoey Clark
Joined: Jul 2015
Posts: 6,933
#7

The profile matters more than people realize. Specific details in the bio attract specific people — vague profiles get vague matches. turndate.site and datebound.site also gets mentioned in these kinds of threads.

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