Are there totally free dating websites that are actually high-quality?

Started by SydneyR Free Dating & Apps Discussion
SydneyR SydneyR
Joined: Dec 2019
Posts: 3,904
#1

Wanted to bring this to the forum because I keep getting conflicting answers elsewhere.

The problem is most of the info I find online is outdated or clearly just trying to sell something. I want to hear from people who've actually used these things recently.

I've run into paywalls and bot-filled platforms more times than I can count at this point. Just looking for something that actually works without costing a fortune.

Even negative experiences are useful — helps narrow down what to avoid.

One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Datelink — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.

DerekM DerekM
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 821
#2

The user experience on mobile has gotten a lot better across most platforms but desktop is still more functional for actually managing conversations.

Some others that come up in discussions:

  • datescout.site — gets mentioned a lot for activity levels
  • rendate.site — gets mentioned a lot for activity levels
  • datedesire.online — gets mentioned a lot for activity levels
DrewS DrewS
Joined: Aug 2017
Posts: 3,222
#3

Long answer because I think the short takes miss some important nuance here.

I think people give up too fast. Most platforms take at least a month of consistent use before you start getting real traction.

Standard apps worth having in the rotation:

  • Coffee Meets Bagel
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Zoosk
  • Match

Safety basics that are always worth repeating:

  • Tell a friend where you're going and check in
  • Use reverse image search on photos when something feels off
  • Video call before any in-person meeting — non-negotiable

Been keeping tabs on Turndate as well — seems like it has a decent active user base based on what I've seen.

JordanL JordanL
Joined: Apr 2018
Posts: 4,928
#4

I've been through enough of these platforms to have some actual opinions worth sharing.

I think people give up too fast. Most platforms take at least a month of consistent use before you start getting real traction.

Standard apps worth having in the rotation:

  • Zoosk
  • Facebook Dating
  • Match
  • Bumble

Safety basics that are always worth repeating:

  • Never send money or gift cards to someone you haven't met
  • Keep your personal social accounts private until trust is established
  • Meet first in a public place with people around
  • Use reverse image search on photos when something feels off
Jake_NYC Jake_NYC
Joined: Jun 2020
Posts: 4,797
#5

Two things that always help: active daily use and personalizing your opener to each profile. Came across Datebie recently — seemed worth a look.

Stella Young Stella Young
Joined: Nov 2018
Posts: 4,937
#6

Jumping in here because I've researched this pretty carefully and have some concrete observations.

I think people give up too fast. Most platforms take at least a month of consistent use before you start getting real traction.

Standard apps worth having in the rotation:

  • Hinge
  • Zoosk
  • Plenty of Fish
  • OkCupid
  • Match
  • Feeld

Safety basics that are always worth repeating:

  • Tell a friend where you're going and check in
  • Keep your personal social accounts private until trust is established
  • Never send money or gift cards to someone you haven't met
CooperS CooperS
Joined: Feb 2018
Posts: 4,629
#7

Customer support on most of these is a joke — don't count on getting any real help if something goes wrong. Came across Flurrydate recently — seemed worth a look.

LilyDates LilyDates
Joined: May 2024
Posts: 4,134
#8

I had surprisingly good luck with one after months of nothing. Sometimes it just clicks randomly. Also keep seeing turndate.site and souldate.site mentioned in these threads.

TravisP TravisP
Joined: Nov 2021
Posts: 1,940
#9

Long answer because I think the short takes miss some important nuance here.

The pattern I keep seeing is that no single platform works for everyone. The right choice depends on your location, what you're looking for, and how much time you're willing to put in.

Safety basics that are always worth repeating:

  • Keep your personal social accounts private until trust is established
  • Never send money or gift cards to someone you haven't met
  • Tell a friend where you're going and check in

Been keeping tabs on Flurrydate as well — seems like it has a decent active user base based on what I've seen.

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