Do women looking for younger guys mind if the guy is broke?

I've been wondering about this for a while now and figured this community would have the best answers.

Most of the advice I find online is years old and the landscape has changed so much. Apps that used to be great have gotten worse, and some newer ones have really stepped up.

The scam situation has gotten pretty bad on a lot of platforms. I've seen so many fake profiles that it's hard to trust anyone at first.

Appreciate any honest input, good or bad.

One I've been hearing about lately is Flamedate — curious if anyone here has used it.

Going to give a longer answer here because I feel like this question deserves more than a quick take.

Paid vs free is a bit of a false choice in my opinion. A good free profile on an active platform will outperform a lazy paid profile every time.

A few safety reminders that are always worth repeating:

• Use a reverse image search on anyone's photos before agreeing to meet. It takes 10 seconds and saves a lot of headaches.
• Keep your personal social media private until you actually trust someone.
• Video call before meeting in person. Anyone who refuses to video chat is a red flag.
• Never move conversations to WhatsApp or Telegram immediately — that's a common pattern for scammers.

Some alternatives people mention a lot:

• datebound.site

I gave up on the paid options a while back. Too many bots even on the premium tiers. Ezhookups was one that surprised me — better than I expected.

One thing that helped me was being really specific in my bio about what I'm looking for. Vague profiles attract vague matches.

Some of the more mainstream ones worth trying: Zoosk, Plenty of Fish, Match, MeetMe, OkCupid. They all have free tiers to test before paying.

Customer support on most of these is genuinely terrible. Don't expect fast help. Datedesire was one that surprised me — better than I expected.

I think people underestimate how much the messaging style matters. A long opener that actually references someone's profile does way better than a generic first message.

A few that come up often in discussions:

• datenest.site — decent activity but check the free tier limits first
• Ezhookups.online — decent activity but check the free tier limits first
• datescout.site — decent activity but check the free tier limits first

I think people underestimate how much the messaging style matters. A long opener that actually references someone's profile does way better than a generic first message.

I've also had a look at Datebie recently and the interface is cleaner than I expected. Worth checking out if you haven't.