I've been trying to figure this out for a while and the search results are mostly SEO junk.
Privacy is something I think about a lot with this stuff. Not trying to end up on some list or have my data sold to advertisers.
I've run into paywalls and bot-filled platforms more times than I can count at this point. Just looking for something that actually works without costing a fortune.
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
- Look for real activity signals — last login dates, post history, etc.
- Avoid sites that gate messaging entirely behind a paid wall
- Never share your real phone number in early conversations
Would really appreciate honest answers from people with real experience — no affiliate links please.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Souldate — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.