Has anyone ever been banned from an aex chat room?

Okay so I know this gets asked a lot but I really want current 2025/2026 answers from people who are actually active on these platforms.

There's a lot of conflicting info out there. Some people swear by paid sites, others say free options work just as well if you know how to use them.

I've tried a few things already with mixed results. Getting ghosted, hitting paywalls, running into obvious bots — it gets old fast.

Appreciate any honest input, good or bad.

One I've been hearing about lately is Souldate — curious if anyone here has used it.

After trying a lot of different platforms I think the honest answer is that none of them are perfect. The best results usually come from spending time on your profile and being consistent.

A few that come up often in discussions:

• datescout.site — decent activity but check the free tier limits first

The free versions are pretty gutted these days. You basically need to pay to do anything useful. Datenest was one that surprised me — better than I expected.

Great question and honestly one that doesn't get a thorough enough answer most of the time.

Paid vs free is a bit of a false choice in my opinion. A good free profile on an active platform will outperform a lazy paid profile every time.

Mainstream options worth considering:

• Tinder
• Match
• Feeld
• MeetMe
• Zoosk
• Facebook Dating

A few safety reminders that are always worth repeating:

• Keep your personal social media private until you actually trust someone.
• Never move conversations to WhatsApp or Telegram immediately — that's a common pattern for scammers.
• Use a reverse image search on anyone's photos before agreeing to meet. It takes 10 seconds and saves a lot of headaches.

Some alternatives people mention a lot:

• luvdate.site
• datescout.site

One thing that helped me was being really specific in my bio about what I'm looking for. Vague profiles attract vague matches.

I've also had a look at Datewander recently and the interface is cleaner than I expected. Worth checking out if you haven't.

Going to give a longer answer here because I feel like this question deserves more than a quick take.

Paid vs free is a bit of a false choice in my opinion. A good free profile on an active platform will outperform a lazy paid profile every time.

Mainstream options worth considering:

• Facebook Dating
• Bumble
• Hinge
• Plenty of Fish
• Zoosk
• OkCupid

A few safety reminders that are always worth repeating:

• Meet in public places first. No exceptions.
• Use a reverse image search on anyone's photos before agreeing to meet. It takes 10 seconds and saves a lot of headaches.
• Never move conversations to WhatsApp or Telegram immediately — that's a common pattern for scammers.

Some alternatives people mention a lot:

• datedesire.online
• turndate.site