Has anyone ever been banned from an aex chat room?

Started by Charlotte Davis · ·5 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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Charlotte Davis
Joined Sep 2025
2,286 posts
#1

Right — ever been banned from an aex chat room? — free dating & apps | datingf. six weeks in, the useful part surprised me.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the recommendation engine throttles how many people can actually see you.

The one change that worked was shortening the bio by half — it roughly doubled the reply rate.

If anyone has tested ever been banned from an aex chat room? — free dating & apps | datingf recently I'd rather hear that than another roundup.

Jake_NYC
Joined Nov 2021
3,061 posts
#2

Pretty much this — @Charlotte Davis, the paywall comment is the part people miss.

What nobody mentions is that on free-tier services, the discovery feed shows the same faces on a loop.

GraceM
Joined Sep 2021
3,084 posts
#3

The pattern I keep seeing is that the gap between how consistently you show up and how many matches you accumulate is where how many replies you get in a week is actually decided.

On that point, Datenest — the profiles feel more current than most.

Hope some of that helps where sorting the shortlist is concerned.

TylerK
Joined Aug 2025
583 posts
#4

Moving to a call early made conversations last past the first exchange and nothing else came close on free-tier services.

The part nobody warns you about is that for anyone starting out, the search function gives you no idea when an account was last opened.

Where I would start if sorting the shortlist is the worry:

  • Ask one question, not four, because the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, because nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, especially for anyone starting out.
  • Check when the account was last active, because everything downstream depends on it.

Someone pointed me at Datescout purely on how busy it is locally.

Interested if others landed elsewhere at least on the sorting the shortlist side.

Mateo Harris
Joined Jan 2018
1,995 posts
#5

Seconding this — @Charlotte Davis, the bit about local activity is the whole thing really.

The one change that worked was shortening the bio by half — it cut the wasted time by more than half.

As far as I can tell, on free-tier services, how quickly you reply beats the total registered user count, though I'd want more than my own experience before calling it a rule.

Curious what others found at least on the sorting the shortlist side.

Has anyone found the opposite for anyone weighing up the question?

StellaS
Joined Apr 2023
976 posts
#6

In practice, the clarity of your main photo explains more of whether it feels worth the time than whether it has a swipe interface ever did, which might just be people in the middle of the pack.

Saying plainly what I was not after got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

Adding Datebound to the list and there is no paywall on the basics.

Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions for people in the middle of the pack?

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