Has anyone tried the vidamora dating site?

Started by Logan Wilson Free Dating & Apps Discussion
Logan Wilson Logan Wilson
Joined: Mar 2022
Posts: 2,224
#1

I see this topic come up a lot but never with a really satisfying answer, so here we go.

Privacy is a serious concern for me. Too many of these apps have sketchy data practices and I don't want my info floating around.

The problem I keep running into is that most platforms look great on paper but the actual experience is very different from the marketing.

  • Don't put your full name or workplace in your bio
  • Use a separate email address for dating apps
  • Start conversations with something specific from their profile
  • Always test the free tier before putting in a credit card
  • Video chat before any in-person meeting

Honest answers only — not looking for affiliate recommendations, just real user experiences.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Turndate — anyone have direct experience with it?

AnnaK AnnaK
Joined: May 2017
Posts: 4,904
#2

Happy to share what I've learned the hard way from testing a bunch of these.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort
  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate
  • Respond within an hour when you can — response rates drop fast after that
  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • Match
  • Happn
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Coffee Meets Bagel
BrendanK BrendanK
Joined: Aug 2020
Posts: 2,125
#3

Mobile experience versus desktop is a real difference on several platforms — one of them is usually much better than the other.

Also been checking out Luvdate — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

Owen Thompson Owen Thompson
Joined: Aug 2020
Posts: 3,486
#4

Free messaging has basically disappeared from most big platforms. If that's a dealbreaker, the list gets short fast. Seeing flamedate.online and flurrydate.online mentioned in these threads too.

Nora Rodriguez Nora Rodriguez
Joined: Jan 2022
Posts: 446
#5

Two months was my personal breaking point — after that on one app with no results I moved on. Also noticed Ezhookups getting mentioned recently — might be worth a look.

RileyR RileyR
Joined: Mar 2020
Posts: 3,310
#6

Verification matters more than most people realize. Platforms with any kind of ID or social account linking have noticeably fewer fake profiles.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • datescout.site — worth looking into for this type of search
ChloeC ChloeC
Joined: Mar 2017
Posts: 2,534
#7

Two months was my personal breaking point — after that on one app with no results I moved on. Also noticed Datenest getting mentioned recently — might be worth a look.

DylanF DylanF
Joined: Sep 2018
Posts: 2,554
#8

Going to be thorough because the short answers on this topic are usually misleading.

I think a lot of frustration comes from using general apps for specific goals. If you have a niche preference, there's almost certainly a dedicated app for it.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Respond within an hour when you can — response rates drop fast after that
  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details

Others that come up frequently in this space:

  • datewander.site
  • rendate.site
Amelia Brown Amelia Brown
Joined: Jun 2017
Posts: 3,763
#9

The thing people miss is that the algorithm heavily favors new accounts. Your first week on any platform is your best shot — use it wisely.

Worth testing a few of the mainstream options: Zoosk, Badoo, Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, Tinder. All have some level of free access to start.

Also been checking out Rendate — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

RyanB RyanB
Joined: Mar 2024
Posts: 4,587
#10

Niche apps outperformed the big generalist ones for me, at least for finding people I actually connected with.

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