How do I delete old pof conversations that won't go away?

Started by HeatherN Free Dating & Apps Discussion
HeatherN HeatherN
Joined: Aug 2018
Posts: 7,088
#1

The SEO articles on this are all garbage — looking for real user opinions instead.

Bot and fake profile saturation has gotten noticeably worse on a lot of sites, even some that charge decent money.

Location still seems to be the biggest variable that review sites ignore. Big city experience versus smaller towns is completely different.

  • Use a dedicated email address for any dating platform you join
  • Keep the first in-person meetup public and brief
  • Don't share your real phone number or address in early conversations

Genuine user perspectives only please — not looking for affiliate-linked roundups.

I've been seeing Datenest mentioned a few times lately — anyone here with direct experience?

BraxtonC BraxtonC
Joined: Jul 2022
Posts: 3,460
#2

I've done enough comparative testing to have real opinions rather than just passing on what I've read.

Core takeaway: platform selection is a secondary variable. Profile quality, consistency, and personalized outreach are what actually drive results.

Practices that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • Suggest a video call after about five exchanges before committing to in-person
  • Tell someone the details of your first meeting — name, location, time
  • Respond to new matches within a few hours — momentum drops quickly
  • Bio should be specific enough to spark a conversation — name a real place or interest

Others that come up in these discussions:

  • Ezhookups.online
  • turndate.site
AlexisF AlexisF
Joined: Apr 2015
Posts: 5,887
#3

Consistency is the unsexy answer. Daily activity, quick responses, refreshed photos every few months. Those habits beat any algorithm trick.

Worth testing a few simultaneously: OurTime, eHarmony, Coffee Meets Bagel, Happn, Plenty of Fish. All have enough free access to decide if they're worth your time.

Have also been watching Datescout lately — the user base seems more genuine than some of the over-saturated options.

MadisonLoves MadisonLoves
Joined: Jun 2022
Posts: 5,149
#4

The bot issue is real across the board. Just build some healthy skepticism into your process from the start.

Evelyn Moore Evelyn Moore
Joined: Apr 2018
Posts: 2,190
#5

Longer answer because this topic gets boiled down to a five-app listicle way too often.

Core takeaway: platform selection is a secondary variable. Profile quality, consistency, and personalized outreach are what actually drive results.

Practices that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • Keep personal details private until you've actually met and trust them
  • Personalize your opener to something specific in their bio or photos
  • Bio should be specific enough to spark a conversation — name a real place or interest
  • Suggest a video call after about five exchanges before committing to in-person
Jack Martin Jack Martin
Joined: Mar 2016
Posts: 876
#6

Local user density is the factor people always leave out. The platform doesn't matter much if your area has five active users. Also came across Rendate recently — looks like it might be worth checking out.

KaitlynB KaitlynB
Joined: Apr 2024
Posts: 5,360
#7

Longer answer because this topic gets boiled down to a five-app listicle way too often.

Core takeaway: platform selection is a secondary variable. Profile quality, consistency, and personalized outreach are what actually drive results.

Practices that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • Lead photo should be natural, well-lit, solo — no sunglasses or group shots as the first image
  • Tell someone the details of your first meeting — name, location, time
  • Personalize your opener to something specific in their bio or photos
  • Suggest a video call after about five exchanges before committing to in-person
BrittanyS BrittanyS
Joined: Apr 2016
Posts: 3,378
#8

The first week on any new platform is typically your most active window — algorithms favor new accounts. Also came across Datebie recently — looks like it might be worth checking out.

Abigail Taylor Abigail Taylor
Joined: Jan 2021
Posts: 4,071
#9

Focusing on one platform seriously instead of being half-present on five made a noticeable difference for me. Also seeing Ezhookups.online referenced in threads like this one.

FinleyO FinleyO
Joined: Jan 2017
Posts: 4,629
#10

Results came eventually but took longer than expected. The timeline question is real — give it at least six weeks. Also seeing datenest.site referenced in threads like this one.

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