How do I use the mingle dating app to find local singles?

Started by Avery Jackson · ·7 replies ·Local & International

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Avery Jackson
Joined Feb 2022
3,005 posts
#1

Posting this after six weeks on how to use the mingle dating app to find local singles? — local & inte — the pattern got clearer than expected.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the discovery feed shows the same faces on a loop, which is the real problem with phone-first platforms.

On balance, how specific you're about what you want is a better predictor of how satisfied you're after a month than the number of prompts you filled in for people in the middle of the pack.

The questions I keep coming back to about local & inte:

  • Does that change much for people in the middle of the pack?
  • Does that hold outside the big cities when sorting the shortlist is the main worry?
  • Does that hold outside the big cities when sorting the shortlist is the main worry?

On phone-first platforms, cutting the match list right down made the whole thing feel less like admin.

If anyone has tested how to use the mingle dating app to find local singles? — local & inte recently I'd rather hear that than another roundup.

PatrickW
Joined May 2017
2,172 posts
#2

For people in the middle of the pack, suggesting a meeting inside two weeks was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

Your results may differ for anyone in the average user.

Does that match what others see across phone-first platforms?

VeronicaT
Joined Nov 2020
68 posts
#3

More often than not, when sorting the shortlist is the issue, whether you actually read the profile does more for how long a conversation lasts than the total registered user count where sorting the shortlist is concerned.

My rules for sorting the shortlist, such as they are:

  • Read the profile before you send anything, because the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking, particularly on phone-first platforms.
  • Set a daily time limit, and doubly so for people in the middle of the pack.
  • Ask one question, not four, which matters most on phone-first platforms.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting — the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
TrentH
Joined Dec 2019
2,785 posts
#4

In practice, when sorting the shortlist is the issue, how well a platform handles reports outweighs which platform you picked.

On phone-first platforms, dropping the filters made the whole thing feel less like admin for the average user.

For a straight comparison, Flamedate — the profiles feel more current than most.

CadeL
Joined Jun 2017
1,380 posts
#5

Has anyone had the reverse happen for anyone in the average user?

How consistently you show up counts for more than the marketing on the homepage, which may say more about how I use them.

Putting one specific interest in the bio was the only change that showed up in the numbers, which surprised me.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that for people in the middle of the pack, the recommendation engine treats a fifty-mile radius as a suggestion.

What I would tell someone starting on the how to use the mingle dating app to find local singles? — local & question:

  • Keep the first meeting short and public, which matters most on phone-first platforms.
  • Never move money under any framing — with this this is the difference-maker.
  • Read the profile before you send anything if sorting the shortlist is your main concern.
  • Let a stalled conversation go, particularly on phone-first platforms.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, particularly on phone-first platforms.
RileyR
Joined Apr 2018
1,246 posts
#6

I'd push back a little. @CadeL, the remark about filters is closer to the opposite in my experience.

Dropping the filters got three actual meetings out of six weeks, which surprised me.

What nobody mentions is that the photo verification step turns into a shop window the moment someone matches, especially once sorting the shortlist comes into it.

Souldate is worth twenty minutes — it does not gate messaging, which is rarer than it should be.

That is my read, not gospel where sorting the shortlist is concerned.

TravisP
Joined Nov 2021
270 posts
#7

Answering within a day made a bigger difference than switching platforms, which surprised me with local & inte.

The part nobody warns you about is that the block function ignores about half of what you set, which is the real problem with phone-first platforms.

For what it is worth, nothing changes how satisfied you are after a month as much as how long you leave a conversation running when it comes to how to use the mingle dating app to find local singles? — local & specifically.

Avery Jackson
Joined Feb 2022
3,005 posts
#8

Broadly, how narrow your filters are explains more of whether anything reaches a first meeting than which tier you're on ever did.

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