How do you deal with trolls on chatrandom dirty?

Started by SavannahW Free Dating & Apps Discussion
SavannahW SavannahW
Joined: Aug 2017
Posts: 2,508
#1

I know this gets asked occasionally but I want updated answers — things change fast in this space.

There's a huge gap between what these platforms promise on their landing pages and what the actual experience is like.

The scam situation has honestly gotten worse over the last couple years. Verification means nothing on a lot of these sites.

Even negative experiences are useful — helps narrow down what to avoid.

One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Datedesire — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.

Mason Davis Mason Davis
Joined: Nov 2022
Posts: 4,793
#2

Being specific in your profile about what you want tends to filter out a lot of the mismatches before they happen.

AnnaK AnnaK
Joined: Apr 2018
Posts: 2,073
#3

I had surprisingly good luck with one after months of nothing. Sometimes it just clicks randomly. Came across Datescout recently — seemed worth a look.

ColbyR ColbyR
Joined: Nov 2020
Posts: 2,657
#4

Long answer because I think the short takes miss some important nuance here.

What actually moves the needle: logging in consistently, keeping your profile fresh, and responding to messages quickly when you do get them.

Standard apps worth having in the rotation:

  • Zoosk
  • Coffee Meets Bagel
  • Match
  • Facebook Dating
  • OkCupid

Safety basics that are always worth repeating:

  • Use reverse image search on photos when something feels off
  • Keep your personal social accounts private until trust is established
  • Video call before any in-person meeting — non-negotiable
  • Never send money or gift cards to someone you haven't met

Others mentioned often in this context:

  • datebound.site
  • datenest.site
  • datescout.site
Luke Robinson Luke Robinson
Joined: Jun 2022
Posts: 1,837
#5

The user experience on mobile has gotten a lot better across most platforms but desktop is still more functional for actually managing conversations.

Also been seeing Datescout pop up — the layout looks cleaner than some older alternatives.

Evelyn Moore Evelyn Moore
Joined: Nov 2022
Posts: 451
#6

Verification and safety features matter a lot more to me now than they did a few years ago. A lot can go wrong without them.

Some others that come up in discussions:

  • flurrydate.online — gets mentioned a lot for activity levels
  • turndate.site — gets mentioned a lot for activity levels
  • flamedate.online — gets mentioned a lot for activity levels

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