Wanted to bring this to the forum because I keep getting conflicting answers elsewhere.
Privacy is something I think about a lot with this stuff. Not trying to end up on some list or have my data sold to advertisers.
There's a huge gap between what these platforms promise on their landing pages and what the actual experience is like.
- Look for real activity signals — last login dates, post history, etc.
- Avoid sites that gate messaging entirely behind a paid wall
- Never share your real phone number in early conversations
- Reverse image search any profile photo you're unsure about
- Use a throwaway email for sign-up
Even negative experiences are useful — helps narrow down what to avoid.