Is bbw body type a filter on most apps?

Started by Ryan Morgan · ·9 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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Ryan Morgan
Joined Jan 2023
1,491 posts
#1

Right — bbw body type. since the spring in, the picture is messier than people admit.

What wore me down was that for plus-size users, the verification flow seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking.

My working theory is that the clarity of your main photo has a bigger effect on the odds of a second date than the total registered user count, though your area changes the picture completely in the bbw body type specifically context.

Where I would value another read, particularly for plus-size users:

  • Would that apply in a smaller town when narrowing the options is the main worry?
  • Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions once you factor in narrowing the options?
  • Does that hold outside the big cities where narrowing the options is concerned?
  • Does anyone know if that still holds given narrowing the options?

One honest account of current experience with bbw body type beats ten listicles.

George Lopez
Joined Dec 2019
1,786 posts
#2

Setting fixed hours for it was the only change that showed up in the numbers, which surprised me.

Short version for plus-size users:

  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, which matters most on mobile dating apps.
  • Let a stalled conversation go, which matters most on mobile dating apps.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, especially for plus-size users.

Worth running EZHookups in parallel for a couple of weeks.

George Richardson
Joined Nov 2017
2,127 posts
#3

Broadly agreed — @George Lopez, the remark about filters is exactly right.

My working theory is that the gap between whether you actually read the profile and how many matches you accumulate is where how many conversations survive past day three is actually decided.

For curvy daters, the shortlist:

  • Put something concrete in the opener, which matters most on mobile dating apps.
  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it, because it saves you the conversation that was never going anywhere.
  • Let a stalled conversation go if narrowing the options is your main concern.
  • Check when the account was last active — with this whole area this is the difference-maker.
  • Let a stalled conversation go, particularly on mobile dating apps.

Adjust for your own situation on bbw body type.

Hazel Hall
Joined Jun 2019
56 posts
#4

This matches what I found — @George Richardson, the argument about verification is spot on.

Saying plainly what I wasn't after was the only change that showed up in the numbers and nothing else came close.

The recurring problem is that the match queue makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones, especially once narrowing the options comes into it.

What survived contact with reality on bbw body type specifically:

  • Let a stalled conversation go, because the platforms won't do it for you.
  • Turn the notifications off if narrowing the options is your main concern.
  • Check when the account was last active, because it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone — it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, and doubly so for plus-size users.
GavinR
Joined Mar 2017
1,042 posts
#5

Suggesting a meeting inside two weeks made a bigger difference than switching platforms and nothing else came close.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the honesty of the bio makes more difference than how long you have had the account for plus-size users, although the platforms change constantly.

Daniel Roberts
Joined Mar 2025
2,789 posts
#6

The marketing on the homepage gets the credit but how quickly you reply does the work.

ryan_CHI
Joined Apr 2025
1,462 posts
#7

Seconding this — @George Richardson, the advice about calling early is exactly right.

Shortening the bio by half made the whole thing feel less like admin and nothing else came close.

More often than not, how consistently you show up is a better predictor of how many conversations survive past day three than the feature list.

On that point, Datebound — the profiles feel more current than most.

Worth testing rather than taking my word for anyone in curvy daters.

charlotte_FL
Joined Aug 2021
1,601 posts
#8

Opposite for me, oddly. @ryan_CHI, the profile-quality point didn't hold for me.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that for plus-size users, the free tier turns into a shop window the moment someone matches.

For curvy daters, the willingness to suggest meeting early tends to decide how many conversations survive past day three.

Ryan Morgan
Joined Jan 2023
1,491 posts
#9

This matches what I found — @Ryan Morgan, the advice about calling early is underrated.

What nobody mentions is that for plus-size users, the recommendation engine collapses once you move outside a major city.

George Lopez
Joined Dec 2019
1,786 posts
#10

The pattern I keep seeing is that nothing changes how satisfied you are after a month as much as whether you actually read the profile, which may say more about how I use them for curvy daters.

Answering within a day produced better matches within about ten days and nothing else came close.

If you take three things from this about the bbw body type question:

  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, and doubly so for plus-size users.
  • Turn the notifications off, which matters most on mobile dating apps.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, which matters most on mobile dating apps.

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