Is bi curious dating common on apps like Bumble?

Started by CharlotteC Free Dating & Apps Discussion
CharlotteC CharlotteC
Joined: Apr 2020
Posts: 713
#1

Been thinking about this for a while and wanted to get input from people with actual experience.

Bot-filled platforms have become a real problem. Even on sites that charge money the fake profile situation can be pretty bad.

I've tried three or four different options already and keep running into the same issues — paywalls, low activity in my area, or obvious bots.

  • Reverse image search photos that look too professional
  • Test every free tier fully before touching the upgrade button
  • Read recent reviews on Reddit before committing to any paid plan
  • Use a separate email address specifically for dating apps

Negative experiences are just as useful as positive ones, so please share.

One I've been seeing mentioned more lately is Datescout — anyone have direct experience with it?

EllieE EllieE
Joined: Oct 2017
Posts: 1,650
#2

Longer answer here because this gets oversimplified into a listicle way too often.

The main insight I'd share: treat app selection as a secondary variable. Profile quality, consistency, and genuine personalization in messages are what actually drive results.

Consistently useful practices regardless of which platform you use:

  • First photo should show your face clearly and look approachable, not professional
  • Tell a friend the details of any first meeting — location, time, name
  • Mention one very specific interest that can spark a conversation
Mia Johnson Mia Johnson
Joined: Sep 2019
Posts: 2,726
#3

Profile photos are doing the heavy lifting on every platform. Invest in that before anything else. Also been seeing Datedesire come up — might be worth checking out.

Sofia Martinez Sofia Martinez
Joined: Jun 2024
Posts: 5,600
#4

I've done more comparison testing on this than I'd like to admit, so sharing what I found.

The main insight I'd share: treat app selection as a secondary variable. Profile quality, consistency, and genuine personalization in messages are what actually drive results.

Consistently useful practices regardless of which platform you use:

  • First photo should show your face clearly and look approachable, not professional
  • Tell a friend the details of any first meeting — location, time, name
  • Mention one very specific interest that can spark a conversation
  • First meeting in a public place with people around, no exceptions

Others frequently mentioned in this space:

  • flamedate.online
  • datescout.site
  • turndate.site
Evelyn Moore Evelyn Moore
Joined: Aug 2018
Posts: 1,053
#5

The algorithm boost for new accounts is something most guides don't mention. Your first week on any platform is your best window — have your profile fully built before you start swiping.

Been keeping an eye on Luvdate recently — the user base looks more genuine than some of the oversaturated main apps.

AlexisF AlexisF
Joined: Oct 2024
Posts: 6,247
#6

The algorithm boost for new accounts is something most guides don't mention. Your first week on any platform is your best window — have your profile fully built before you start swiping.

Others that come up often:

  • datewander.site — mentioned frequently in this context
EmmaDates EmmaDates
Joined: Aug 2024
Posts: 6,583
#7

The algorithm boost for new accounts is something most guides don't mention. Your first week on any platform is your best window — have your profile fully built before you start swiping.

Mainstream options worth running simultaneously: Plenty of Fish, eHarmony, Her, Match, Feeld. All have some free functionality to test before paying.

Others that come up often:

  • luvdate.site — mentioned frequently in this context
Riley Robinson Riley Robinson
Joined: Dec 2022
Posts: 7,119
#8

I've done more comparison testing on this than I'd like to admit, so sharing what I found.

The platforms that invest in verification and safety features tend to have better user quality across the board. It's worth paying a small premium if it means fewer fake profiles.

Consistently useful practices regardless of which platform you use:

  • First photo should show your face clearly and look approachable, not professional
  • Move to a video call after 3 to 5 exchanges — it screens out catfish and builds comfort
  • First meeting in a public place with people around, no exceptions

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