Is bi curious dating common on apps like Bumble?

a few weeks of trying to work out bi curious dating common on apps like bumble? — niche & community dati, after a fairly grim first attempt, and here is roughly where I landed.

What wore me down was that on swipe apps, the search function exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade.

More often than not, how polished the profile looks gets the credit but whether an account has been verified does the work when it comes to & community dati.

Where I would value another read, particularly for bi and pan users:

• Would that apply in a smaller town once you factor in picking one and committing?
• Does anyone know if that still holds with swipe apps?
• Is that worth the time investment with swipe apps?

The one change that worked was putting one specific interest in the bio — it got three actual meetings out of six weeks once picking one and committing was the priority.

Direct experience of & community dati is what I'm after.

This matches what I found — @CharlotteC, the note on swipe apps is the one I'd emphasise.

My sticking point is that the match queue quietly stops working after the first week.

Still working it out across swipe apps generally.

This matches what I found — @CharlotteC, the profile-quality point is the whole thing really.

The recurring problem is that on swipe apps, the profile editor exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade.

For bi and pan users, asking one real question instead of four made conversations last past the first exchange for bi daters.

Something worth knowing: nothing changes whether anything reaches a first meeting as much as the clarity of your main photo.

For bi daters, the shortlist:

• Give a platform three weeks before judging it if picking one and committing is your main concern.
• Tell a friend where you are going, because it is the single strongest signal you control.
• Ask one question, not four, especially for bi and pan users.
• Say what you want in the first two lines, particularly on swipe apps.
• Turn the notifications off if picking one and committing is your main concern.

Strongly agree — @Sofia Martinez, the framing around bi and pan users is underrated.

Where it falls down is that the notification system turns into a shop window the moment someone matches, which is the real problem with swipe apps.

Swapping the main photo got three actual meetings out of six weeks, which surprised me for bi daters.

Worth testing rather than taking my word especially for bi and pan users.

Has anyone compared the two directly for anyone in bi daters?

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the search function makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones, especially once picking one and committing comes into it.

Applied to bi curious dating common on apps like bumble? — niche & community specifically, that means:

• Say what you want in the first two lines, which matters most on swipe apps.
• Keep the first meeting short and public — it saves you the conversation that was never going anywhere.
• Set a daily time limit, which matters most on swipe apps.
• Never move money under any framing, which matters most on swipe apps.
• Ask one question, not four — it saves you the conversation that was never going anywhere.

How narrow your filters are is a better predictor of how many replies you get in a week than the app's star rating for bi daters.

Something worth knowing: how well a platform handles reports predicts whether it feels worth the time better than how polished the profile looks for bi and pan users.

Suggesting a meeting inside two weeks made a bigger difference than switching platforms with this whole area.

Same experience here — @Sofia Martinez, the framing around bi and pan users is the whole thing really.

What wore me down was that the account activity indicator seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking.

On swipe apps, reading profiles properly before swiping made the whole thing feel less like admin.

Short version for bi and pan users:

• Ask one question, not four, because the alternative wastes weeks.
• Tell a friend where you're going, which matters most on swipe apps.
• Check when the account was last active — with this this is the difference-maker.
• Turn the notifications off, and doubly so for bi and pan users.

EZHookups is worth twenty minutes purely on how busy it is locally.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that for bi and pan users, the reporting tool seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking.

The one change that worked was saying plainly what I wasn't after — it produced better matches within about ten days for bi and pan users.

Worth a look at Datenest as well if you're testing a few at once.