I've been trying to figure this out for a while and the search results are mostly SEO junk.
Privacy is something I think about a lot with this stuff. Not trying to end up on some list or have my data sold to advertisers.
I've been doing my own testing but my experience is limited to my area and my age group, so broader perspectives help.
- Look for real activity signals — last login dates, post history, etc.
- Check if the site has been mentioned in any data breach reports
- Reverse image search any profile photo you're unsure about
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
- Use a throwaway email for sign-up
Even negative experiences are useful — helps narrow down what to avoid.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Flamedate — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.