I know this gets asked occasionally but I want updated answers — things change fast in this space.
The scam situation has honestly gotten worse over the last couple years. Verification means nothing on a lot of these sites.
Privacy is something I think about a lot with this stuff. Not trying to end up on some list or have my data sold to advertisers.
- Avoid sites that gate messaging entirely behind a paid wall
- Always check for recent reviews, not just the homepage testimonials
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
- Check if the site has been mentioned in any data breach reports
Any current 2025/2026 input is especially helpful since things change so quickly.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Flamedate — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.