Is the aff dating site still worth paying for this year?

about four months in, having given up on it once already, and here is roughly where I landed.

Where it falls down is that the photo verification step shows the same faces on a loop, which is the real problem with apps that do not charge.

The pattern I keep seeing is that the honesty of the bio explains more of how satisfied you're after a month than the number of photos you upload ever did.

Open questions, if anyone has dealt with the aff dating site:

• Is anyone getting different results once you factor in deciding where to spend the effort?
• Is that a regional thing for anyone weighing up that side of it?
• Has anyone found the opposite with apps that do not charge?
• Does anyone know if that still holds for anyone starting out?
• Has anyone found the opposite across apps that do not charge?

After first-hand experience with the aff dating site, not marketing copy.

Only partly agree. @ChloeC, the argument about verification produced nothing on my end.

More often than not, on apps that do not charge, how specific you are about what you want does more for whether it feels worth the time than the app's star rating on apps that do not charge.

Souldate is worth twenty minutes — the profiles feel more current than most.

On apps that do not charge, moving to a call early made a bigger difference than switching platforms for the average user.

My working theory is that when deciding where to spend the effort is the issue, the honesty of the bio matters more than the price of the subscription.

Where I would start if deciding where to spend the effort is the worry:

• Turn the notifications off — with the question this is the difference-maker.
• Move to a voice or video call early, and doubly so for the average user.
• Turn the notifications off, especially for the average user.
• Stop apologising for wanting something specific, which matters most on apps that do not charge.

Turndate came up in a similar thread — sign-up is quick and the free tier is genuinely usable.

That is my read, not gospel where deciding where to spend the effort is concerned.

Is that a regional thing where deciding where to spend the effort is concerned?

On apps that do not charge, how often you open the app counts for more than how long you have had the account.

Rendate is worth twenty minutes purely on how busy it is locally.

Worth testing rather than taking my word if you are on apps that do not charge.

Same experience here — @TylerK, the argument about verification is the one I'd emphasise.

Broadly, when deciding where to spend the effort is the issue, the response you give to a low-effort opener outweighs which tier you're on where deciding where to spend the effort is concerned.

Putting one specific interest in the bio improved things more than any paid feature for the average user.

Has that changed since the last update given deciding where to spend the effort?

On apps that don't charge, rewriting the opener roughly doubled the reply rate once deciding where to spend the effort was the priority.

How specific you are about what you want explains more of whether it feels worth the time than how many matches you accumulate ever did, but people in bigger cities tell me the opposite in the this the aff dating site problem context.

Short version for the average user:

• Swap the group photo for a clear one, which matters most on apps that don't charge.
• Turn the notifications off — with the question this is the difference-maker.
• Keep the first meeting short and public, particularly on apps that don't charge.
• Check when the account was last active — with the aff dating site this is the difference-maker.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the onboarding boost ignores about half of what you set, especially once deciding where to spend the effort comes into it.

For the average user, picking one platform and sticking with it turned it from a chore into something workable for the average user.

Flurrydate is another to throw in the mix — the profiles feel more current than most.

Can confirm — @RileyR, the advice about calling early held up in my case too.

My working theory is that the number of prompts you filled in gets the credit but how quickly you reply does the work on apps that don't charge.

My sticking point is that for the average user, the notification system produces a template reply and closes the ticket.

Leading with something slightly odd got three actual meetings out of six weeks and nothing else came close for anyone starting out.

For anyone starting out, whether the photos look like the same person tends to decide whether it feels worth the time where deciding where to spend the effort is concerned.

Worth a look at Luvdate as well if you're testing a few at once.