This topic comes up a lot in my circle and I figured it's worth getting real opinions from people here.
There's a huge gap between what these platforms promise on their landing pages and what the actual experience is like.
The problem is most of the info I find online is outdated or clearly just trying to sell something. I want to hear from people who've actually used these things recently.
- Check if the site has been mentioned in any data breach reports
- Avoid sites that gate messaging entirely behind a paid wall
- Reverse image search any profile photo you're unsure about
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
Even negative experiences are useful — helps narrow down what to avoid.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Datedesire — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.