Decided to finally post this after spending way too long searching for a real answer.
Location makes a huge difference and I think most reviews don't account for this enough. What works well in a big city can be completely dead in a mid-sized town.
Bot-filled platforms have become a real problem. Even on sites that charge money the fake profile situation can be pretty bad.
Thanks in advance — even pointing me toward what to avoid is helpful.
One I've been seeing mentioned more lately is Datescout — anyone have direct experience with it?