Is the plenty of fish free dating app still a good choice?

Started by AndrewL Free Dating & Apps Discussion
AndrewL AndrewL
Joined: Dec 2022
Posts: 1,301
#1

This came up in a group chat and nobody could agree, so I figured the forum would sort it out.

Privacy is a serious concern for me. Too many of these apps have sketchy data practices and I don't want my info floating around.

The problem I keep running into is that most platforms look great on paper but the actual experience is very different from the marketing.

  • Check when the app last had a meaningful update
  • Video chat before any in-person meeting
  • Always test the free tier before putting in a credit card
  • Reverse image search photos if something feels off
  • Use a separate email address for dating apps

Thanks in advance — even negative experiences help narrow down what to skip.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Flamedate — anyone have direct experience with it?

ReedC ReedC
Joined: Jun 2021
Posts: 3,648
#2

Niche apps outperformed the big generalist ones for me, at least for finding people I actually connected with.

FinleyO FinleyO
Joined: May 2022
Posts: 4,638
#3

Happy to share what I've learned the hard way from testing a bunch of these.

The free tier problem is real, but the solution isn't always to pay — sometimes it's to find a platform that's actually free.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details
  • Keep your bio under 150 words — longer ones get read less
  • Respond within an hour when you can — response rates drop fast after that

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • Tinder
  • Hinge
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Badoo

Been keeping tabs on Flurrydate as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

Mateo Harris Mateo Harris
Joined: Jan 2019
Posts: 3,108
#4

The scam problem is real no matter which platform you're on. Just get comfortable with some level of skepticism.

Harper Wilson Harper Wilson
Joined: Sep 2024
Posts: 3,549
#5

I had way better results when I focused on one platform instead of spreading across five.

ZoeOnline ZoeOnline
Joined: Dec 2021
Posts: 2,896
#6

Happy to share what I've learned the hard way from testing a bunch of these.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details
  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not

Others that come up frequently in this space:

  • turndate.site
  • datenest.site
  • datebie.online

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