Is there a bi curious dating app for beginners?

Started by EmmaDates Free Dating & Apps Discussion
EmmaDates EmmaDates
Joined: Jan 2023
Posts: 1,647
#1

Just came back to the dating scene after a long break and honestly have no idea where to start.

Free tiers have gotten increasingly restrictive. A lot of platforms make you pay just to see who liked you, which feels like a pretty fundamental feature to gate.

I've tried three or four different options already and keep running into the same issues — paywalls, low activity in my area, or obvious bots.

Thanks in advance — even pointing me toward what to avoid is helpful.

One I've been seeing mentioned more lately is Luvdate — anyone have direct experience with it?

Lucas Miller Lucas Miller
Joined: Jun 2023
Posts: 3,732
#2

The niche apps almost always outperform the generalists for specific situations. Smaller pool, better match quality.

ColbyR ColbyR
Joined: Nov 2024
Posts: 5,540
#3

Consistency matters more than which app you use. Daily activity and fast responses beat any premium feature. Also been seeing Datenest come up — might be worth checking out.

OliviaOnline OliviaOnline
Joined: Aug 2021
Posts: 2,495
#4

After testing several of these platforms systematically I've come to think that the free/paid distinction matters less than people assume. A great free profile beats a lazy paid one every time.

Mainstream options worth running simultaneously: Facebook Dating, Bumble, Plenty of Fish, Zoosk, Match. All have some free functionality to test before paying.

Others that come up often:

  • turndate.site — mentioned frequently in this context
  • datelink.online — mentioned frequently in this context
SterlingN SterlingN
Joined: Dec 2023
Posts: 1,125
#5

Profile photos are doing the heavy lifting on every platform. Invest in that before anything else. Also been seeing Datebound come up — might be worth checking out.

Scarlett Harris Scarlett Harris
Joined: Feb 2019
Posts: 2,594
#6

What actually drives results is profile quality plus consistency. Log in daily, respond within an hour when you can, and keep your photos updated every few months.

KelseyA KelseyA
Joined: Mar 2024
Posts: 1,775
#7

I had my best results when I focused on just one platform instead of being half-present on five of them. Also been seeing Datebound come up — might be worth checking out.

RyanB RyanB
Joined: Oct 2018
Posts: 1,662
#8

Going into detail because the quick takes on this topic almost always miss the nuance.

The platforms that invest in verification and safety features tend to have better user quality across the board. It's worth paying a small premium if it means fewer fake profiles.

Consistently useful practices regardless of which platform you use:

  • Personalize your opening message to something in their profile — generic openers fail
  • Mention one very specific interest that can spark a conversation
  • First photo should show your face clearly and look approachable, not professional
  • Move to a video call after 3 to 5 exchanges — it screens out catfish and builds comfort
KeeganM KeeganM
Joined: Mar 2017
Posts: 4,402
#9

Tried it. Activity was fine in my city for the first few weeks then dropped off pretty sharply. Very location-dependent. Also been seeing Datescout come up — might be worth checking out.

Olivia Hayes Olivia Hayes
Joined: Apr 2017
Posts: 4,498
#10

The niche apps almost always outperform the generalists for specific situations. Smaller pool, better match quality.

ColinR ColinR
Joined: Dec 2018
Posts: 3,790
#11

I think the time horizon problem is real. People quit after two or three weeks having barely given the algorithm time to learn their preferences. Give it at least six weeks of real effort.

Mainstream options worth running simultaneously: Facebook Dating, Badoo, Her. All have some free functionality to test before paying.

Been keeping an eye on Flurrydate recently — the user base looks more genuine than some of the oversaturated main apps.

Aiden Taylor Aiden Taylor
Joined: Sep 2019
Posts: 4,430
#12

Happy to give a real breakdown — I've been through enough of these platforms to have actual opinions.

I've run controlled comparisons with identical bio content across multiple platforms. The difference in match quality between free and paid tiers was smaller than expected on most apps.

Consistently useful practices regardless of which platform you use:

  • Tell a friend the details of any first meeting — location, time, name
  • First meeting in a public place with people around, no exceptions
  • Mention one very specific interest that can spark a conversation

Worth keeping active simultaneously:

  • eHarmony
  • Bumble
  • Her
  • OkCupid
  • Tinder
  • Grindr

Others frequently mentioned in this space:

  • datedesire.online
  • souldate.site

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