Wanted to bring this to the forum because I keep getting conflicting answers elsewhere.
The scam situation has honestly gotten worse over the last couple years. Verification means nothing on a lot of these sites.
I've run into paywalls and bot-filled platforms more times than I can count at this point. Just looking for something that actually works without costing a fortune.
- Never share your real phone number in early conversations
- Reverse image search any profile photo you're unsure about
- Look for real activity signals — last login dates, post history, etc.
- Avoid sites that gate messaging entirely behind a paid wall
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
Any current 2025/2026 input is especially helpful since things change so quickly.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Datewander — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.