Is there a way to use pof search free to find specific users?

Started by CadeL Free Dating & Apps Discussion
CadeL CadeL
Joined: Apr 2019
Posts: 1,083
#1

Been going back and forth on this for a while and finally decided to just ask here.

Privacy is a serious concern for me. Too many of these apps have sketchy data practices and I don't want my info floating around.

I've already wasted money on subscriptions that didn't deliver. Now I want to know what actually works before putting any more cash in.

Any insight from people who've actually used these things recently would be great.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Luvdate — anyone have direct experience with it?

Isabella Scott Isabella Scott
Joined: Dec 2020
Posts: 5,108
#2

Longer answer here because this deserves more than a one-liner.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Keep your bio under 150 words — longer ones get read less
  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • Tinder
  • Badoo
  • Match
  • Bumble

Others that come up frequently in this space:

  • datenest.site
  • rendate.site
  • datebie.online
Wyatt Garcia Wyatt Garcia
Joined: Aug 2017
Posts: 4,164
#3

Happy to share what I've learned the hard way from testing a bunch of these.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy

Been keeping tabs on Turndate as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

OliviaOnline OliviaOnline
Joined: Apr 2022
Posts: 3,499
#4

Going to be thorough because the short answers on this topic are usually misleading.

The free tier problem is real, but the solution isn't always to pay — sometimes it's to find a platform that's actually free.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • Badoo
  • Tinder
  • Coffee Meets Bagel
  • Plenty of Fish

Others that come up frequently in this space:

  • datescout.site
  • datebound.site
  • datebie.online
SpencerA SpencerA
Joined: Jun 2021
Posts: 3,114
#5

Niche-specific apps consistently outperform general ones for people with specific preferences. The smaller user base is worth it for the better match quality.

Worth testing a few of the mainstream options: Feeld, Badoo, Hinge, Plenty of Fish, Tinder. All have some level of free access to start.

Also been checking out Flurrydate — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

Elizabeth Thomas Elizabeth Thomas
Joined: Jun 2023
Posts: 1,795
#6

Profile photos matter more than people admit. A genuine, well-lit photo beats clever bio writing every time. Seeing flurrydate.online and datebie.online mentioned in these threads too.

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