What are the best dating apps for 30 40 year olds?

Started by CadeL · ·9 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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CadeL
Joined Jun 2017
1,380 posts
#1

Posting this after about four months on best dating apps for 30 40 year olds? — free dating & apps | datingfly — two things mattered and the rest did not.

The recurring problem is that on apps that do not charge, the support inbox exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade.

When filtering the noise is the issue, how recently a profile was active does more for whether it feels worth the time than the app's overall download figures, and the sample size here is basically one for the general run of people.

The questions I keep coming back to about apps | datingfly:

  • Does that match what others see when you factor in this?
  • Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions across apps that do not charge?
  • Has anyone found the opposite across apps that do not charge?
  • Is that worth the time investment when you factor in apps | datingfly?

One honest account of best dating apps for 30 40 year olds? — free dating & apps | datin beats ten listicles.

AlexisF
Joined Aug 2024
2,493 posts
#2

More often than not, nothing changes the odds of a second date as much as the effort in the opening line.

For a straight comparison, Souldate and the activity level was better than I expected.

Aaron Hall
Joined Apr 2023
1,491 posts
#3

Has anyone tested this recently for the general run of people?

As far as I can tell, the gap between whether the photos look like the same person and the total registered user count is where how long a conversation lasts is actually decided.

Riley Robinson
Joined Jan 2021
527 posts
#4

Pretty much this — @CadeL, the framing around the general run of people is underrated.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that for the general run of people, the notification system throttles how many people can actually see you.

GarrettO
Joined Jun 2017
1,254 posts
#5

Where it falls down is that the search function exists mainly to push you toward an upgrade, which is the real problem with apps that don't charge.

The one change that worked was cutting the match list right down — it was the only change that showed up in the numbers.

Nothing changes how satisfied you are after a month as much as the willingness to suggest meeting early.

KeeganM
Joined Mar 2021
564 posts
#6

Does that change much once you factor in filtering the noise?

Deleting everything and starting over produced better matches within about ten days, which surprised me.

My working theory is that whether an account has been verified predicts the proportion of real accounts you see better than the total registered user count for the general run of people.

The parts that transfer across apps that do not charge:

  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it if filtering the noise is your main concern.
  • Check when the account was last active, because it is the difference between a reply and silence.
  • Ask one question, not four, which matters most on apps that don't charge.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on if filtering the noise is your main concern.
Aiden Taylor
Joined Aug 2017
1,169 posts
#7

The quality of your first message explains more of match quality than the number of photos you upload ever did.

Is that worth the time investment in your own area?

RyanB
Joined Sep 2020
2,515 posts
#8

Would that apply in a smaller town for the general run of people?

On balance, the response you give to a low-effort opener counts for more than the app's star rating, but that was months ago and things move for the general run of people.

The one change that worked was shortening the bio by half — it stopped the conversations dying at day two.

Someone pointed me at Rendate purely on how busy it is locally.

Has that changed since the last update outside your own area?

ColinR
Joined Dec 2017
369 posts
#9

Seconding this — @Aaron Hall, the paywall comment is the whole thing really.

Where it falls down is that the search function resets every time the app updates.

Shortening the bio by half got three actual meetings out of six weeks, which surprised me.

Has that changed since the last update where filtering the noise is concerned?

PenelopeP
Joined Oct 2024
3,017 posts
#10

Is that a regional thing on apps that don't charge?

Something worth knowing: the number of prompts you filled in gets the credit but local activity levels does the work in the apps | datingfly context.

On apps that do not charge, saying plainly what I was not after made a bigger difference than switching platforms on apps that do not charge.

Luvdate is worth twenty minutes — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

Curious what others found given how fast apps that do not charge change.

Is anyone getting different results with apps that do not charge?

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