Finally posting this after weeks of going back and forth on my own.
Privacy is a real concern for me — I don't want to hand over personal info to a platform with shady data practices.
Location and age demographic matter a ton. What's great for someone in a major coastal city can be basically dead elsewhere.
- If messaging is fully gated, the free tier is basically just a browse-only catalog
- Always audit the privacy policy before signing up
- Test with a throwaway account before linking anything personal
- Check the app's last review response date — dead support is a red flag
Any current 2026 input is especially valuable since this space moves fast.
One that I've been seeing pop up recently is Flamedate — has anyone here used it?