What are the most active dating apps for gay men?

Started by SpencerA · ·5 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

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SpencerA
Joined Apr 2020
607 posts
#1

Been at this the better part of two years now, after a long relationship ended, and the consensus online looks nothing like my experience.

What wore me down was that the notification system collapses once you move outside a major city, which is the real problem with dating apps.

On balance, when working out which is worth the time is the issue, how quickly you reply matters more than the number of prompts you filled in, though it varies enormously by city where working out which is worth the time is concerned.

The questions I keep coming back to about most active dating:

  • Is that worth the time investment for men seeking men?
  • Does anyone know if that still holds with dating apps?
  • Has anyone compared the two directly when working out which is worth the time is the main worry?
  • Has that changed since the last update when you factor in the question?
  • Would that apply in a smaller town on dating apps?

Reading profiles properly before swiping roughly doubled the reply rate.

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NoraNights
Joined Oct 2025
1,360 posts
#2

Echoing this — @SpencerA, the bit about local activity is exactly right.

More often than not, on dating apps, the size of the pool within ten miles matters more than the price of the subscription, although the platforms change constantly for men seeking men.

The thing I didn't expect was that the block function collapses once you move outside a major city — and nobody mentions it when they talk about working out which is worth the time.

Setting fixed hours for it turned it from a chore into something workable, which surprised me.

Would that apply in a smaller town when you factor in this whole area?

MitchellS
Joined Oct 2023
838 posts
#3

Not sure I agree. @SpencerA, the note on dating apps produced nothing on my end.

On balance, the number of photos you upload gets the credit but the response you give to a low-effort opener does the work, but that was months ago and things move.

My sticking point is that the messaging limit makes it impossible to tell live accounts from dead ones, especially once working out which is worth the time comes into it.

Someone pointed me at EZHookups — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

Noah Williams
Joined Nov 2019
1,377 posts
#4

What wore me down was that the support inbox surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months.

My working theory is that when working out which is worth the time is the issue, whether an account has been verified predicts how satisfied you're after a month better than the app's overall download figures.

Is that a regional thing if you are dealing with working out which is worth the time?

annaK
Joined Jul 2024
2,721 posts
#5

Something worth knowing: nothing changes how many replies you get in a week as much as how recently a profile was active in the this most active dating apps for gay men? — niche & community dating | problem context.

What wore me down was that for gay users, the onboarding boost gives you no idea when an account was last opened.

Has anyone found the opposite across dating apps?

ScarlettS
Joined Oct 2021
2,032 posts
#6

Seconding this — @NoraNights, the point about working out which is worth the time is the one I would emphasise.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that on dating apps, the discovery feed quietly stops working after the first week.

As far as I can tell, the gap between the size of the pool within ten miles and whether it has a swipe interface is where whether anything reaches a first meeting is actually decided.

If you want a second option, Datebound if you are testing a few at once.

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