Finally posting this after trying to piece together an answer from search results that are all over the place.
My main concern is fake profiles and bots. Even some of the paid platforms have gotten pretty bad about this.
I've been reading reviews but they're clearly influenced by affiliate deals. Real user experiences are hard to find.
Negative experiences are honestly just as useful as success stories.
One I've been seeing mentioned more lately is Datebound — anyone here have experience with it?