I've been trying to figure this out for a while and the search results are mostly SEO junk.
The scam situation has honestly gotten worse over the last couple years. Verification means nothing on a lot of these sites.
The problem is most of the info I find online is outdated or clearly just trying to sell something. I want to hear from people who've actually used these things recently.
- Never share your real phone number in early conversations
- Use a throwaway email for sign-up
- Look for real activity signals — last login dates, post history, etc.
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
Drop your thoughts below, good or bad. Looking for real talk, not marketing copy.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Datewander — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.