What are the worst dating sites you've ever used?

Started by Madison Reed Free Dating & Apps Discussion
Madison Reed Madison Reed
Joined: Jan 2022
Posts: 5,381
#1

Tried a few platforms already with mixed results, so figured I'd ask before wasting more time.

Data privacy is something I take seriously. I'd like to know which platforms actually respect that.

The paywall creep is frustrating. Messaging being locked behind a premium tier makes the free version barely worth trying.

Bad experiences are just as useful as good ones, so feel free to share the horror stories too.

I've been seeing Luvdate mentioned a few times lately — anyone here with direct experience?

ZachW ZachW
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 6,162
#2

Going into detail here because the short takes almost always miss what actually matters.

Ran informal comparisons with the same content on multiple platforms. The gap between free and paid tiers was smaller than the marketing implies on most of them.

Practices that consistently improve results regardless of platform:

  • First in-person meeting should be public, relatively short, and daytime if possible
  • Tell someone the details of your first meeting — name, location, time
  • Bio should be specific enough to spark a conversation — name a real place or interest
  • Lead photo should be natural, well-lit, solo — no sunglasses or group shots as the first image

Apps worth running in parallel:

  • Tinder
  • Happn
  • Facebook Dating
  • Plenty of Fish
AndrewL AndrewL
Joined: Jul 2019
Posts: 6,703
#3

Platforms with any kind of verification step — linked social accounts, photo review, anything — consistently produce better match quality. The friction weeds out a lot of fakes.

Have also been watching Turndate lately — the user base seems more genuine than some of the over-saturated options.

Logan Wilson Logan Wilson
Joined: May 2016
Posts: 7,975
#4

Results came eventually but took longer than expected. The timeline question is real — give it at least six weeks. Also seeing datebie.online and rendate.site referenced in threads like this one.

PaigeD PaigeD
Joined: Jun 2020
Posts: 1,311
#5

The new account algorithm boost is worth knowing about. Whatever platform you join, have everything fully set up before your first swipe — that initial week is your best window.

Have also been watching Turndate lately — the user base seems more genuine than some of the over-saturated options.

EllieE EllieE
Joined: Aug 2018
Posts: 2,817
#6

Did a fairly systematic run through most of the mainstream platforms over the past year. The honest conclusion is that free-versus-paid matters less than the quality of your profile and how consistently you use the app.

Nora Rodriguez Nora Rodriguez
Joined: May 2022
Posts: 6,866
#7

Spent two months on the wrong platform before realizing my demographic was somewhere else entirely. Always check local activity first. Also came across Datebound recently — looks like it might be worth checking out.

JordanL JordanL
Joined: Apr 2016
Posts: 5,774
#8

Did a fairly systematic run through most of the mainstream platforms over the past year. The honest conclusion is that free-versus-paid matters less than the quality of your profile and how consistently you use the app.

Worth testing a few simultaneously: Hinge, Feeld, Badoo, Hily, OurTime. All have enough free access to decide if they're worth your time.

DakotaN DakotaN
Joined: Mar 2020
Posts: 742
#9

Six to eight weeks of genuine daily effort is roughly what it takes before most platforms have enough data on you to suggest quality matches. People quit too early.

Worth testing a few simultaneously: Her, Hinge, OurTime. All have enough free access to decide if they're worth your time.

Have also been watching Datenest lately — the user base seems more genuine than some of the over-saturated options.

DonaldR DonaldR
Joined: Nov 2018
Posts: 1,857
#10

The new account algorithm boost is worth knowing about. Whatever platform you join, have everything fully set up before your first swipe — that initial week is your best window.

Worth testing a few simultaneously: Her, Tinder, Zoosk, Hily. All have enough free access to decide if they're worth your time.

Lily Lewis Lily Lewis
Joined: Apr 2019
Posts: 4,862
#11

Focusing on one platform seriously instead of being half-present on five made a noticeable difference for me.

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