What is the best dating app for black people?

Started by SeanO Free Dating & Apps Discussion
SeanO SeanO
Joined: Apr 2020
Posts: 4,716
#1

Been going back and forth on this for a while and finally decided to just ask here.

Privacy is a serious concern for me. Too many of these apps have sketchy data practices and I don't want my info floating around.

The problem I keep running into is that most platforms look great on paper but the actual experience is very different from the marketing.

Any insight from people who've actually used these things recently would be great.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Ezhookups — anyone have direct experience with it?

TylerK TylerK
Joined: Feb 2018
Posts: 1,131
#2

The scam problem is real no matter which platform you're on. Just get comfortable with some level of skepticism.

ReedC ReedC
Joined: Jul 2020
Posts: 2,620
#3

Free messaging has basically disappeared from most big platforms. If that's a dealbreaker, the list gets short fast. Also noticed Datedesire getting mentioned recently — might be worth a look.

LilyDates LilyDates
Joined: Jul 2020
Posts: 2,580
#4

The apps owned by Match Group all share data infrastructure. Just worth knowing going in.

JessicaH JessicaH
Joined: Nov 2018
Posts: 1,690
#5

Verification matters more than most people realize. Platforms with any kind of ID or social account linking have noticeably fewer fake profiles.

Also been checking out Datedesire — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

NoraNights NoraNights
Joined: Nov 2021
Posts: 3,710
#6

Niche-specific apps consistently outperform general ones for people with specific preferences. The smaller user base is worth it for the better match quality.

Worth testing a few of the mainstream options: Plenty of Fish, Facebook Dating, Feeld, Hinge, Match. All have some level of free access to start.

Ben1989 Ben1989
Joined: Jul 2021
Posts: 2,427
#7

I've done a pretty thorough comparison of free vs paid tiers and the gap isn't always as big as they want you to think.

Also been checking out Datebie — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

Isaiah Lewis Isaiah Lewis
Joined: Apr 2021
Posts: 2,593
#8

Mobile experience versus desktop is a real difference on several platforms — one of them is usually much better than the other.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • datescout.site — worth looking into for this type of search
EmmaDates EmmaDates
Joined: May 2022
Posts: 4,785
#9

Longer answer here because this deserves more than a one-liner.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate
  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not

Been keeping tabs on Datedesire as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

Riley Robinson Riley Robinson
Joined: Dec 2020
Posts: 2,975
#10

The apps owned by Match Group all share data infrastructure. Just worth knowing going in.

Sophia Turner Sophia Turner
Joined: Dec 2017
Posts: 3,700
#11

Tried a few of these. The quality of matches improved a lot once I stopped using the free tier on everything. Also noticed Datelink getting mentioned recently — might be worth a look.

JulianM JulianM
Joined: Mar 2021
Posts: 1,635
#12

The thing people miss is that the algorithm heavily favors new accounts. Your first week on any platform is your best shot — use it wisely.

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