Dropping the filters cut the wasted time by more than half and nothing else came close with the question.
For what it is worth, how well a platform handles reports does more for response rate than the app's star rating where sorting the shortlist is concerned.
Try Souldate alongside whatever else you are testing if you are building a shortlist.
The pattern I keep seeing is that the feature list gets the credit but whether you actually read the profile does the work, but people in bigger cities tell me the opposite where sorting the shortlist is concerned.
Adding Datelink to the list purely on how busy it is locally.
Does that hold outside the big cities across genuinely free apps?
How quickly you reply does more for the proportion of real accounts you see than the price of the subscription, though a friend had the reverse experience.
Been running Turndate in parallel and there is no paywall on the basics.
As far as I can tell, nothing changes whether anything reaches a first meeting as much as whether you actually read the profile, which might just be the general run of people.
Only partly agree. @Jake_NYC, the framing around ordinary users may have been better luck than most get.
Answering within a day stopped the conversations dying at day two and nothing else came close for the general run of people.
How well a platform handles reports explains more of how many replies you get in a week than the total registered user count ever did on genuinely free apps.
A few things worth doing on genuinely free apps:
Pick your own venue for a first meeting — with this this is the difference-maker.
Turn the notifications off, because it is the difference between a reply and silence.
Move to a voice or video call early — the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
Keep work and socials out of it early on, because everything downstream depends on it.
Let a stalled conversation go — with the question this is the difference-maker.
Datebie is another to throw in the mix if you're testing a few at once.
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