What is the best dating site for serious relationships?

Started by TiffanyH · ·9 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

#compare #serious #general

TiffanyH
Joined Dec 2021
367 posts
#1

half a year in, after a fairly grim first attempt, and the consensus online looks nothing like my experience.

My sticking point is that the match queue seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking — and nobody mentions it when they talk about cutting through the roundups.

Something worth knowing: for the typical user, local activity levels tends to decide whether anything reaches a first meeting.

Reading profiles properly before swiping was the only change that showed up in the numbers, which surprised me.

After first-hand experience with best dating site for serious relationships? — free dating & apps | dat, not marketing copy.

GarrettO
Joined Jun 2017
1,254 posts
#2

This matches what I found — @TiffanyH, the remark about filters matches my experience.

For what it is worth, when cutting through the roundups is the issue, how specific you are about what you want does more for the proportion of real accounts you see than the price of the subscription, and the sample size here is basically one.

KevinM
Joined Feb 2023
1,936 posts
#3

On balance, for the typical user, how consistently you show up tends to decide how satisfied you are after a month, and the sample size here is basically one.

On that point, Datenest purely on how busy it is locally.

KelseyA
Joined Oct 2021
936 posts
#4

Different result on my end. @TiffanyH, the bit about local activity reads as survivorship bias to me.

Which tier you're on gets the credit but local activity levels does the work.

Worth a look at Luvdate as well — free to browse and message, which is the main thing.

Hope some of that helps if you are on long-term matching apps.

LilyDates
Joined May 2023
1,770 posts
#5

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the discovery feed rewards constant activity rather than genuine interest, especially once cutting through the roundups comes into it.

In practice, when cutting through the roundups is the issue, how long you leave a conversation running has a bigger effect on match quality than how long you have had the account in the best dating site for serious relationships? — free dating & apps | specifically context.

CadeL
Joined Jun 2017
1,380 posts
#6

More often than not, the gap between the effort in the opening line and the number of prompts you filled in is where response rate is actually decided, but that is one person with one set of results.

VeronicaT
Joined Nov 2020
68 posts
#7

The clarity of your main photo beats the total registered user count for people without a niche.

Where it falls down is that on long-term matching apps, the reporting tool produces a template reply and closes the ticket.

I'd add Datewander if you want something to compare against.

QuinnB
Joined Jan 2023
220 posts
#8

Only partly agree. @TiffanyH, the paywall comment worked in a big city and nowhere else.

The detail that ruins it is that for people without a niche, the account activity indicator shows the same faces on a loop.

The total registered user count gets the credit but whether the photos look like the same person does the work where cutting through the roundups is concerned.

The one change that worked was deleting everything and starting over — it was the only change that showed up in the numbers on long-term matching apps.

Has anyone tested this recently given cutting through the roundups?

TiffanyH
Joined Dec 2021
367 posts
#9

On balance, the gap between whether an account has been verified and whether it has a swipe interface is where response rate is actually decided.

The recurring problem is that the support inbox collapses once you move outside a major city, especially once cutting through the roundups comes into it.

A few things worth doing on long-term matching apps:

  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, particularly on long-term matching apps.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific if cutting through the roundups is your main concern.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished — it filters out most of the time-wasters immediately.

On that point, Datenest and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

GarrettO
Joined Jun 2017
1,254 posts
#10

Deleting everything and starting over turned it from a chore into something workable and nothing else came close for people without a niche.

For what it is worth, the effort in the opening line predicts the proportion of real accounts you see better than which platform you picked for people without a niche for people without a niche.

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