What is the best plus size dating app?

Started by Amelia Torres · ·10 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

#compare #app #plussize

Amelia Torres
Joined Jun 2020
842 posts
#1

Been at this an embarrassing amount of time now, mostly to see whether the complaints were fair, and most of what I had read didn't hold up.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the account activity indicator ignores about half of what you set, which is the real problem with mobile dating apps.

Broadly, nothing changes whether anything reaches a first meeting as much as the honesty of the bio.

The questions I keep coming back to about best plus size dating app? — niche & community dating | datingfly comm:

  • Does anyone know if that still holds on mobile dating apps?
  • Is there a way to check before signing up for anyone in curvy daters?
  • Does that hold outside the big cities if you are dealing with evaluating the alternatives?
  • Has anyone had the reverse happen in the region you set your filters to?
  • Has anyone tested this recently in the region you set your filters to?

Moving to a call early produced better matches within about ten days.

Interested in what is actually working on best plus size right now.

Isaac Edwards
Joined Jan 2025
2,069 posts
#2

Similar story on my end — @Amelia Torres, the profile-quality point is spot on.

For plus-size users, putting one specific interest in the bio changed the kind of people who replied.

The thing I did not expect was that the search function buries you the moment you stop checking daily — and nobody mentions it when they talk about evaluating the alternatives.

Not claiming this is universal at least on the evaluating the alternatives side.

Charlotte Clark
Joined Feb 2023
2,266 posts
#3

The one change that worked was asking one real question instead of four — it cut the wasted time by more than half.

Whether you actually read the profile is a better predictor of whether anything reaches a first meeting than the total registered user count.

ellieR
Joined Aug 2022
1,288 posts
#4

Same experience here — @Charlotte Clark, the advice about calling early is the whole thing really.

On mobile dating apps, leading with something slightly odd made a bigger difference than switching platforms for plus-size users.

Flurrydate came up in a similar thread if you are testing a few at once.

Curious what others found on this.

Abigail Kim
Joined Feb 2018
1,021 posts
#5

I want to gently disagree. @Charlotte Clark, the framing around plus-size users produced nothing on my end.

My working theory is that the gap between the amount of detail in a bio and how polished the profile looks is where response rate is actually decided.

Someone pointed me at Rendate purely on how busy it is locally.

Layla Stewart
Joined Apr 2018
2,923 posts
#6

More often than not, the quality of your first message beats how many matches you accumulate.

Short version for plus-size users:

  • Say what you want in the first two lines, particularly on mobile dating apps.
  • Check when the account was last active, particularly on mobile dating apps.
  • Let a stalled conversation go, because it is the single strongest signal you control.
  • Check when the account was last active — with | datingfly comm this is the difference-maker.
Julian Clark
Joined Nov 2021
966 posts
#7

More often than not, on mobile dating apps, how recently a profile was active does more for how long a conversation lasts than the app's star rating for curvy daters.

Zachary Turner
Joined Jan 2025
2,442 posts
#8

I want to gently disagree. @ellieR, the bit about local activity backfired when I tried it.

What actually frustrates me is that the distance filter throttles how many people can actually see you — and nobody mentions it when they talk about evaluating the alternatives.

On balance, on mobile dating apps, how recently a profile was active has a bigger effect on whether it feels worth the time than the price of the subscription.

The checklist I ended up with for mobile dating apps:

  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, particularly on mobile dating apps.
  • Reverse-image-search anything too polished, and doubly so for plus-size users.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone — with that side of it this is the difference-maker.
  • Screenshot anything odd before blocking, and doubly so for plus-size users.
  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone if evaluating the alternatives is your main concern.
Amelia Torres
Joined Jun 2020
842 posts
#9

This matches what I found — @Abigail Kim, the remark about filters is underrated.

What nobody mentions is that the block function seems designed to keep you swiping rather than talking, especially once evaluating the alternatives comes into it.

For plus-size users, suggesting a meeting inside two weeks improved things more than any paid feature on mobile dating apps.

Isaac Edwards
Joined Jan 2025
2,069 posts
#10

How recently a profile was active outweighs how many matches you accumulate for plus-size users.

Boiled down, for anyone weighing up best plus size dating app? — niche & community dating | datingfly specifically:

  • Turn the notifications off, especially for plus-size users.
  • Say what you want in the first two lines, particularly on mobile dating apps.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific, especially for plus-size users.
  • Swap the group photo for a clear one, because it saves you the conversation that was never going anywhere.
  • Let a stalled conversation go — nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.
Charlotte Clark
Joined Feb 2023
2,266 posts
#11

For plus-size users, suggesting a meeting inside two weeks improved things more than any paid feature.

My working theory is that how long you leave a conversation running beats the feature list for plus-size users.

That is where I've got to on the this whole area question.

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