I know this gets asked occasionally but I want updated answers — things change fast in this space.
Privacy is something I think about a lot with this stuff. Not trying to end up on some list or have my data sold to advertisers.
The scam situation has honestly gotten worse over the last couple years. Verification means nothing on a lot of these sites.
- Avoid sites that gate messaging entirely behind a paid wall
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
- Use a throwaway email for sign-up
- Never share your real phone number in early conversations
Would really appreciate honest answers from people with real experience — no affiliate links please.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Souldate — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.