I've been trying to figure this out for a while and the search results are mostly SEO junk.
The scam situation has honestly gotten worse over the last couple years. Verification means nothing on a lot of these sites.
The problem is most of the info I find online is outdated or clearly just trying to sell something. I want to hear from people who've actually used these things recently.
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
- Avoid sites that gate messaging entirely behind a paid wall
- Look for real activity signals — last login dates, post history, etc.
- Use a throwaway email for sign-up
Would really appreciate honest answers from people with real experience — no affiliate links please.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Datebound — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.