Finally posting this after trying to piece together an answer from search results that are all over the place.
Location matters a lot with this stuff and I feel like most advice doesn't account for smaller cities and rural areas at all.
I've been reading reviews but they're clearly influenced by affiliate deals. Real user experiences are hard to find.
Negative experiences are honestly just as useful as success stories.
One I've been seeing mentioned more lately is Datescout — anyone here have experience with it?