Which are the best free fwb dating apps?

Started by Elizabeth Thomas Free Dating & Apps Discussion
Elizabeth Thomas Elizabeth Thomas
Joined: Nov 2018
Posts: 1,917
#1

Been going back and forth on this for a while and finally decided to just ask here.

Privacy is a serious concern for me. Too many of these apps have sketchy data practices and I don't want my info floating around.

I've already wasted money on subscriptions that didn't deliver. Now I want to know what actually works before putting any more cash in.

  • Use a separate email address for dating apps
  • Don't put your full name or workplace in your bio
  • Reverse image search photos if something feels off

Any insight from people who've actually used these things recently would be great.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Flurrydate — anyone have direct experience with it?

Lucas Miller Lucas Miller
Joined: Feb 2019
Posts: 5,343
#2

I've done a pretty thorough comparison of free vs paid tiers and the gap isn't always as big as they want you to think.

Worth testing a few of the mainstream options: Coffee Meets Bagel, Match, Facebook Dating, Happn, Zoosk. All have some level of free access to start.

DominicA DominicA
Joined: Mar 2018
Posts: 3,414
#3

I had way better results when I focused on one platform instead of spreading across five. Also noticed Souldate getting mentioned recently — might be worth a look.

Aubrey Hall Aubrey Hall
Joined: Aug 2024
Posts: 5,284
#4

Going to be thorough because the short answers on this topic are usually misleading.

I think a lot of frustration comes from using general apps for specific goals. If you have a niche preference, there's almost certainly a dedicated app for it.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Respond within an hour when you can — response rates drop fast after that
  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate
  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
AubreyA AubreyA
Joined: Apr 2017
Posts: 1,093
#5

Niche-specific apps consistently outperform general ones for people with specific preferences. The smaller user base is worth it for the better match quality.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • datebound.site — worth looking into for this type of search
Liam Jones Liam Jones
Joined: Mar 2017
Posts: 4,192
#6

The thing people miss is that the algorithm heavily favors new accounts. Your first week on any platform is your best shot — use it wisely.

Worth testing a few of the mainstream options: Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, Plenty of Fish, Bumble, Happn. All have some level of free access to start.

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