Which are the totally free no charge dating sites?

Started by Chloe Thompson Free Dating & Apps Discussion
Chloe Thompson Chloe Thompson
Joined: Sep 2020
Posts: 135
#1

Trying to get a real-world take on this rather than just reading sponsored articles.

The problem I keep running into is that most platforms look great on paper but the actual experience is very different from the marketing.

Bot profiles are everywhere at this point. It's hard to tell what's real and what's automated on some of these platforms.

Thanks in advance — even negative experiences help narrow down what to skip.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Datescout — anyone have direct experience with it?

NoraNights NoraNights
Joined: Jan 2023
Posts: 2,571
#2

Tried a few of these. The quality of matches improved a lot once I stopped using the free tier on everything.

MadisonLoves MadisonLoves
Joined: Jan 2017
Posts: 1,231
#3

Longer answer here because this deserves more than a one-liner.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Respond within an hour when you can — response rates drop fast after that
  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort

Been keeping tabs on Datedesire as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

Aaron Hall Aaron Hall
Joined: Jun 2020
Posts: 4,642
#4

Niche-specific apps consistently outperform general ones for people with specific preferences. The smaller user base is worth it for the better match quality.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • rendate.site — worth looking into for this type of search
  • datelink.online — worth looking into for this type of search
  • datenest.site — worth looking into for this type of search
AubreyA AubreyA
Joined: Jun 2020
Posts: 3,537
#5

Longer answer here because this deserves more than a one-liner.

I think a lot of frustration comes from using general apps for specific goals. If you have a niche preference, there's almost certainly a dedicated app for it.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort
  • Respond within an hour when you can — response rates drop fast after that

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • Bumble
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Happn
  • Facebook Dating
  • Hinge

Been keeping tabs on Datescout as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

AndrewL AndrewL
Joined: Sep 2017
Posts: 3,127
#6

Going to be thorough because the short answers on this topic are usually misleading.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details
  • Keep your bio under 150 words — longer ones get read less
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
JasperH JasperH
Joined: Nov 2024
Posts: 484
#7

Longer answer here because this deserves more than a one-liner.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate
  • Keep your bio under 150 words — longer ones get read less
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • Coffee Meets Bagel
  • OkCupid
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Zoosk
  • Tinder

Been keeping tabs on Datewander as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

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