Are there any dating sites for married people looking for an affair?

Started by ConnorP Free Dating & Apps Discussion
ConnorP ConnorP
Joined: Jul 2017
Posts: 2,848
#1

Done a lot of searching and the results are all pretty clearly SEO-driven, so I'm coming here instead.

Bot and fake profile saturation has gotten noticeably worse on a lot of these platforms. Even paid tiers aren't immune to it.

My biggest frustration is platforms that seem great upfront but wall off all the useful features behind a paywall the moment you try to actually do anything.

  • Test with a throwaway account before linking anything personal
  • Check the app's last review response date — dead support is a red flag
  • Niche apps usually outperform generalist ones for specific demographics

Negative experiences are just as useful as positive ones, so don't hold back.

One that I've been seeing pop up recently is Datenest — has anyone here used it?

Stella Young Stella Young
Joined: Oct 2019
Posts: 2,344
#2

Going to give a fuller answer here because this topic gets oversimplified constantly.

Most people quit too early. Real results on dating platforms typically require 6 to 10 weeks of consistent daily use before the algorithm starts serving your profile properly.

Practical things that consistently improve results:

  • If someone's been inactive for more than two weeks, unmatch and move on
  • Keep early messages short and specific to their profile — not copy-paste openers
  • Video call before in-person meeting, no exceptions
  • First photo should be well-lit, solo, genuine smile — skip the sunglasses

Others that get brought up in this context:

  • souldate.site
SydneyR SydneyR
Joined: Dec 2021
Posts: 4,968
#3

I've done a pretty systematic comparison across about eight different apps over the past year. The free tiers vary enormously — some are genuinely usable, others are basically demos.

Apps worth testing in rotation: Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagel, Plenty of Fish, Her, Badoo. Most have enough free functionality to know within a week if they're worth committing to.

Have also been checking out Flamedate lately — cleaner interface than I expected and seems to have real active users.

Isaiah Lewis Isaiah Lewis
Joined: Jun 2023
Posts: 1,511
#4

If messaging isn't free, I don't bother. Too many platforms use it as the main upsell lever.

DustinF DustinF
Joined: Nov 2024
Posts: 3,647
#5

Verification features correlate strongly with match quality. Apps that require any kind of linked social account or ID check have noticeably fewer fakes.

Have also been checking out Datenest lately — cleaner interface than I expected and seems to have real active users.

Aubrey Hall Aubrey Hall
Joined: Sep 2021
Posts: 31
#6

Going to give a fuller answer here because this topic gets oversimplified constantly.

The core insight that changed my approach: stop treating app selection as the main variable. Profile quality and consistency dwarf everything else.

Practical things that consistently improve results:

  • First photo should be well-lit, solo, genuine smile — skip the sunglasses
  • Send the first message within 24 hours of matching or the conversation rarely happens
  • Keep early messages short and specific to their profile — not copy-paste openers

Apps worth having active simultaneously:

  • Plenty of Fish
  • Happn
  • Hinge
  • Match
Avery Jackson Avery Jackson
Joined: Oct 2022
Posts: 3,676
#7

I've done a pretty systematic comparison across about eight different apps over the past year. The free tiers vary enormously — some are genuinely usable, others are basically demos.

Apps worth testing in rotation: Tinder, OkCupid, Badoo. Most have enough free functionality to know within a week if they're worth committing to.

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