Have you tried mpwh dating for positive singles?

Started by GavinR Free Dating & Apps Discussion
GavinR GavinR
Joined: Nov 2021
Posts: 1,495
#1

Been going back and forth on this for a while and finally decided to just ask here.

I've already wasted money on subscriptions that didn't deliver. Now I want to know what actually works before putting any more cash in.

The quality gap between free and paid tiers has gotten smaller on some platforms, but on others it's night and day.

Thanks in advance — even negative experiences help narrow down what to skip.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Datedesire — anyone have direct experience with it?

Noah Williams Noah Williams
Joined: Jan 2021
Posts: 5,287
#2

Tried a few of these. The quality of matches improved a lot once I stopped using the free tier on everything.

BraxtonC BraxtonC
Joined: Oct 2022
Posts: 2,885
#3

Consistency beats everything. Log in daily, respond promptly, keep the profile updated. Also noticed Souldate getting mentioned recently — might be worth a look.

ChloeC ChloeC
Joined: Oct 2022
Posts: 5,445
#4

The apps owned by Match Group all share data infrastructure. Just worth knowing going in. Seeing rendate.site and datewander.site mentioned in these threads too.

NoraNights NoraNights
Joined: Mar 2017
Posts: 4,557
#5

Tried a few of these. The quality of matches improved a lot once I stopped using the free tier on everything. Also noticed Souldate getting mentioned recently — might be worth a look.

SeanO SeanO
Joined: May 2022
Posts: 5,190
#6

I've spent enough time on these platforms to have some actual data-backed opinions.

The headline is: platform choice matters less than profile quality and consistency. Fix those two things first.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate
  • Meet in public, tell a friend the details
  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort

Others that come up frequently in this space:

  • souldate.site
JustinM JustinM
Joined: Jul 2020
Posts: 3,477
#7

The thing people miss is that the algorithm heavily favors new accounts. Your first week on any platform is your best shot — use it wisely.

Also been checking out Datenest — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

PenelopeP PenelopeP
Joined: Nov 2023
Posts: 2,319
#8

Verification matters more than most people realize. Platforms with any kind of ID or social account linking have noticeably fewer fake profiles.

DylanF DylanF
Joined: Oct 2018
Posts: 444
#9

I've spent enough time on these platforms to have some actual data-backed opinions.

Most people quit too early. Meaningful results on dating apps typically take 6–8 weeks of consistent daily use.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate

Been keeping tabs on Flamedate as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

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