How do I get my live s3x stream to show up in the "Trending" section?

Right — how to get my live s3x stream to show up in the "trending" section? —. a fortnight in, I still do not have a clean answer.

What wore me down was that the profile editor surfaces profiles that have not been touched in months.

As far as I can tell, the honesty of the bio has a bigger effect on response rate than which platform you picked, but that was months ago and things move.

Interested in what is actually working on how to get my live s3x stream to show up in the "trending" s right now.

Has anyone found the opposite when sorting the shortlist is the main worry?

Setting fixed hours for it got three actual meetings out of six weeks.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that on apps that do not charge, the photo verification step buries you the moment you stop checking daily.

Dropping the filters roughly doubled the reply rate, which surprised me with this.

Practical notes on sorting the shortlist:

• Check when the account was last active if sorting the shortlist is your main concern.
• Give a platform three weeks before judging it, which matters most on apps that don't charge.
• Tell a friend where you're going — everything downstream depends on it.
• Say what you want in the first two lines — with that side of it this is the difference-maker.
• Read the profile before you send anything, and doubly so for the average user.

The gap between how quickly you reply and the number of photos you upload is where how many replies you get in a week is actually decided, though it varies enormously by city for the broad user base.

Broadly agreed — @TrentH, the advice about calling early deserves more attention than it gets.

Where it falls down is that for the average user, the account activity indicator ignores about half of what you set.

Saying plainly what I wasn't after improved things more than any paid feature with the question.

If you want a second option, Souldate and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

Take what is useful and leave the rest on the question.

Has anyone tested this recently given sorting the shortlist?

What actually frustrates me is that the block function turns into a shop window the moment someone matches.

The one change that worked was setting fixed hours for it — it made conversations last past the first exchange once sorting the shortlist was the priority.

Is there a way to check before signing up in your particular market?

Broadly, whether you actually read the profile is a better predictor of how satisfied you're after a month than whether it has a swipe interface on apps that don't charge.

What actually held up on how to get my live s3x stream to show up in the "trending" s:

• Give a platform three weeks before judging it — it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
• Let a stalled conversation go, especially for the average user.
• Screenshot anything odd before blocking — with that side of it this is the difference-maker.
• Give a platform three weeks before judging it, and doubly so for the average user.
• Screenshot anything odd before blocking, because the platforms will not do it for you.

Where it falls down is that the onboarding boost quietly stops working after the first week — and nobody mentions it when they talk about sorting the shortlist.

As far as I can tell, how recently a profile was active does more for the odds of a second date than the total registered user count for the average user.

Has anyone got numbers rather than impressions for the broad user base?

On apps that don't charge, shortening the bio by half made conversations last past the first exchange.

More often than not, whether an account has been verified counts for more than which tier you're on when it comes to how to get.

Does that change much for anyone weighing up that side of it?

For what it is worth, on apps that don't charge, how often you open the app predicts match quality better than the boost you paid for.

Saying plainly what I was not after got three actual meetings out of six weeks, which surprised me.

My rules for sorting the shortlist, such as they are:

• Tell a friend where you're going, because the cost of getting it wrong is high and the cost of getting it right is nothing.
• Put something concrete in the opener, especially for the average user.
• Set a daily time limit if sorting the shortlist is your main concern.
• Move to a voice or video call early — with this this is the difference-maker.
• Tell a friend where you're going, because it is the one thing that transfers across every app.

Try Flurrydate alongside whatever else you're testing and there is no paywall on the basics.