How does ourtime online dating work for seniors?

Started by PatrickW · ·7 replies ·Niche & Community Dating

#compare #app #seniors

PatrickW
Joined May 2017
2,172 posts
#1

Posting this after eight weeks on ourtime online dating work for seniors? — niche & community dating | d — the picture is messier than people admit.

What nobody mentions is that the search function collapses once you move outside a major city — and nobody mentions it when they talk about deciding where to spend the effort.

The clarity of your main photo matters more than the total registered user count for the retired crowd.

Where I would value another read, particularly for the retired crowd:

  • Does that match what others see on phone-first platforms?
  • Does that match what others see given deciding where to spend the effort?
  • Would that apply in a smaller town once you factor in deciding where to spend the effort?
  • Has that changed since the last update across phone-first platforms?
  • Has that changed since the last update on phone-first platforms?

Deleting everything and starting over improved things more than any paid feature.

Any recent, first-hand input on ourtime online dating work for seniors? — niche & community dating | d appreciated.

NathanielP
Joined Aug 2021
437 posts
#2

Setting fixed hours for it made the whole thing feel less like admin and nothing else came close.

My sticking point is that the distance filter shows the same faces on a loop.

What I would tell someone starting on ourtime online dating work for seniors? — niche & community dating | d:

  • Write the bio for one person, not everyone, which matters most on phone-first platforms.
  • Set a daily time limit — it is the one thing that transfers across every app.
  • Check when the account was last active, and doubly so for the retired crowd.
  • Keep work and socials out of it early on, particularly on phone-first platforms.

Someone pointed me at Datelink and it turned out to be worth the ten minutes.

CooperS
Joined Jan 2020
507 posts
#3

Pretty much this — @PatrickW, the paywall comment matches my experience.

My working theory is that how well a platform handles reports counts for more than the boost you paid for.

CarterB
Joined Nov 2022
3,315 posts
#4

This is close to my read — @CooperS, the advice about calling early is the one I would emphasise.

Reading profiles properly before swiping made conversations last past the first exchange.

If you want a second option, Rendate and there is no paywall on the basics.

Would that apply in a smaller town for people in their sixties and beyond?

Lily Lewis
Joined Sep 2020
292 posts
#5

Similar story on my end — @CooperS, the profile-quality point held up in my case too.

The one change that worked was rewriting the opener — it made conversations last past the first exchange with ourtime online dating.

My working theory is that on phone-first platforms, how often you open the app does more for the proportion of real accounts you see than whether it has a swipe interface in the ourtime online dating work for seniors? — niche & community dating | d context.

For people in their sixties and beyond, the shortlist:

  • Ask one question, not four, particularly on phone-first platforms.
  • Check when the account was last active — nothing else moves the numbers as reliably.
  • Ask one question, not four, particularly on phone-first platforms.
  • Stop apologising for wanting something specific — the alternative wastes weeks.
AlexisF
Joined Aug 2024
2,493 posts
#6

Broadly, how consistently you show up does more for how many replies you get in a week than the total registered user count for the retired crowd, though it varies enormously by city.

Been running Flurrydate in parallel if you're testing a few at once.

MadisonLoves
Joined Jul 2017
3,023 posts
#7

Does that change much across phone-first platforms?

Putting one specific interest in the bio made a bigger difference than switching platforms, which surprised me on phone-first platforms.

Souldate came up in a similar thread — quick to set up and free to evaluate properly.

Jackson Thomas
Joined Aug 2023
2,842 posts
#8

Has anyone had the reverse happen on phone-first platforms?

On phone-first platforms, the effort in the opening line has a bigger effect on whether anything reaches a first meeting than the feature list, though a friend had the reverse experience.

Where I would start if deciding where to spend the effort is the worry:

  • Give a platform three weeks before judging it — everything downstream depends on it.
  • Check when the account was last active, because it is the difference between a reply and silence.
  • Pick your own venue for a first meeting, which matters most on phone-first platforms.

Happy to be argued with on the this whole area question.

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