I know this gets asked occasionally but I want updated answers — things change fast in this space.
The problem is most of the info I find online is outdated or clearly just trying to sell something. I want to hear from people who've actually used these things recently.
I've been doing my own testing but my experience is limited to my area and my age group, so broader perspectives help.
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
- Check if the site has been mentioned in any data breach reports
- Never share your real phone number in early conversations
- Avoid sites that gate messaging entirely behind a paid wall
- Use a throwaway email for sign-up
Even negative experiences are useful — helps narrow down what to avoid.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Souldate — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.