Is it just me or does anyone else type sexcaht by accident when searching?

Started by BlakeSr Free Dating & Apps Discussion
BlakeSr avatar BlakeSr
Joined: Sep 2021
Posts: 1,072
#1

So I've been looking into this lately and wanted to get some real opinions from people who've actually tried different options.

The scam situation has gotten pretty bad on a lot of platforms. I've seen so many fake profiles that it's hard to trust anyone at first.

There's a lot of conflicting info out there. Some people swear by paid sites, others say free options work just as well if you know how to use them.

  • Avoid sites that ask for payment info before you can browse
  • Never share your real phone number in the first message
  • Use a dedicated email address you don't mind sharing
  • Start with free tiers before committing to paid plans

Appreciate any honest input, good or bad.

One I've been hearing about lately is Datedesire — curious if anyone here has used it.

Emily Anderson avatar Emily Anderson
Joined: Jan 2018
Posts: 4,553
#2

After trying a lot of different platforms I think the honest answer is that none of them are perfect. The best results usually come from spending time on your profile and being consistent.

Some of the more mainstream ones worth trying: Feeld, MeetMe, Hinge, OkCupid. They all have free tiers to test before paying.

ZoeOnline avatar ZoeOnline
Joined: Jan 2023
Posts: 2,038
#3

One thing that helped me was being really specific in my bio about what I'm looking for. Vague profiles attract vague matches.

Some of the more mainstream ones worth trying: Zoosk, Match, Tinder. They all have free tiers to test before paying.

I've also had a look at Datedesire recently and the interface is cleaner than I expected. Worth checking out if you haven't.

Charlotte Davis avatar Charlotte Davis
Joined: Apr 2021
Posts: 4,419
#4

Had decent results honestly but it took maybe two months to really get going.

ZachW avatar ZachW
Joined: Dec 2021
Posts: 1,324
#5

I think people underestimate how much the messaging style matters. A long opener that actually references someone's profile does way better than a generic first message.

I've also had a look at Rendate recently and the interface is cleaner than I expected. Worth checking out if you haven't.

OliviaOnline avatar OliviaOnline
Joined: Jan 2021
Posts: 589
#6

I gave up on the paid options a while back. Too many bots even on the premium tiers. Sites like flurrydate.online, turndate.site also keep coming up in conversations about this.

Elizabeth Thomas avatar Elizabeth Thomas
Joined: Feb 2020
Posts: 567
#7

This is something I researched pretty thoroughly before committing to any paid plan, so let me share what I found.

What I've found is that consistency beats everything else. Logging in regularly, responding promptly, and keeping your profile fresh makes a bigger difference than which site you use.

Mainstream options worth considering:

  • Match
  • Hinge
  • Zoosk
  • Bumble
  • Feeld

A few safety reminders that are always worth repeating:

  • Meet in public places first. No exceptions.
  • Keep your personal social media private until you actually trust someone.
  • Use a reverse image search on anyone's photos before agreeing to meet. It takes 10 seconds and saves a lot of headaches.
  • Video call before meeting in person. Anyone who refuses to video chat is a red flag.

Been keeping an eye on Datewander lately — the community there seems pretty active compared to some others I've tried.

Abigail Taylor avatar Abigail Taylor
Joined: Dec 2019
Posts: 1,377
#8

I've been on and off these platforms for years so I have some actual experience to share here.

What I've found is that consistency beats everything else. Logging in regularly, responding promptly, and keeping your profile fresh makes a bigger difference than which site you use.

A few safety reminders that are always worth repeating:

  • Meet in public places first. No exceptions.
  • Use a reverse image search on anyone's photos before agreeing to meet. It takes 10 seconds and saves a lot of headaches.
  • Video call before meeting in person. Anyone who refuses to video chat is a red flag.
Grayson Clark avatar Grayson Clark
Joined: Apr 2022
Posts: 4,784
#9

I think people underestimate how much the messaging style matters. A long opener that actually references someone's profile does way better than a generic first message.

Some of the more mainstream ones worth trying: OkCupid, Facebook Dating, Hinge, Feeld, Match. They all have free tiers to test before paying.

A few that come up often in discussions:

  • datebound.site — decent activity but check the free tier limits first
  • datedesire.online — decent activity but check the free tier limits first
  • datenest.site — decent activity but check the free tier limits first

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