Is the searching for singles website worth using?

Started by ReedC · ·10 replies ·Free Dating & Apps

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ReedC
Joined Jun 2018
133 posts
#1

Posting this after two months on the searching for singles website — here is roughly where I landed.

The bit that keeps catching me out is that the block function ignores about half of what you set.

The parts of the searching for singles website specifically I cannot resolve on my own:

  • Has anyone tested this recently in wherever you happen to live?
  • Is that a regional thing if you are dealing with picking one and committing?
  • Is that a regional thing where picking one and committing is concerned?
  • Would that apply in a smaller town for people without a niche?
  • Does that change much if you are dealing with picking one and committing?

If anyone has tested the searching for singles website recently I would rather hear that than another roundup.

MikeD
Joined Jun 2018
1,094 posts
#2

Does that hold outside the big cities given picking one and committing?

Something worth knowing: whether you actually read the profile makes more difference than the boost you paid for, but that is one person with one set of results.

annaK
Joined Jul 2024
2,721 posts
#3

The recurring problem is that on the free options, the distance filter buries you the moment you stop checking daily.

The number of photos you upload gets the credit but the clarity of your main photo does the work, which may say more about how I use them on the free options.

SterlingN
Joined Apr 2017
738 posts
#4

What actually frustrates me is that for people without a niche, the profile editor shows the same faces on a loop.

Datescout has been the steadier of the ones I run and the activity level was better than I expected.

ColinR
Joined Dec 2017
369 posts
#5

In practice, how recently a profile was active is a better predictor of how many conversations survive past day three than how many matches you accumulate where picking one and committing is concerned.

Not claiming this is universal across the free options generally.

JulianM
Joined Oct 2022
2,787 posts
#6

Dropping the filters made a bigger difference than switching platforms and nothing else came close for ordinary users.

On balance, the amount of detail in a bio explains more of how many replies you get in a week than the number of photos you upload ever did on the free options.

Datebie has been the steadier of the ones I run if you are testing a few at once.

JasperH
Joined Nov 2017
2,800 posts
#7

Can confirm — @SterlingN, the bit about local activity is spot on.

The detail that ruins it is that the account activity indicator surfaces profiles that haven't been touched in months — and nobody mentions it when they talk about picking one and committing.

Does that match what others see given picking one and committing?

Logan Wilson
Joined May 2017
798 posts
#8

Moving to a call early stopped the conversations dying at day two.

In practice, whether it has a swipe interface gets the credit but how long you leave a conversation running does the work, but that was months ago and things move.

ReedC
Joined Jun 2018
133 posts
#9

That isn't how it went for me. @MikeD, the timing observation worked in a big city and nowhere else.

More often than not, the honesty of the bio counts for more than which tier you're on for people without a niche.

MikeD
Joined Jun 2018
1,094 posts
#10

For what it is worth, when picking one and committing is the issue, the willingness to suggest meeting early matters more than the number of prompts you filled in.

Suggesting a meeting inside two weeks made the whole thing feel less like admin, which surprised me with the searching for.

Where I would start if picking one and committing is the worry:

  • Turn the notifications off, particularly on the free options.
  • Ask one question, not four, particularly on the free options.
  • Keep the first meeting short and public if picking one and committing is your main concern.
  • Set a daily time limit, particularly on the free options.
  • Tell a friend where you're going, and doubly so for people without a niche.

Adjust for your own situation on the the question question.

annaK
Joined Jul 2024
2,721 posts
#11

As far as I can tell, on the free options, whether you actually read the profile beats the boost you paid for.

Dropping the filters made conversations last past the first exchange and nothing else came close.

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