Okay real talk, I've tried a few options already and none of them have been great, so hoping for some honest input.
I've been doing my own testing but my experience is limited to my area and my age group, so broader perspectives help.
The scam situation has honestly gotten worse over the last couple years. Verification means nothing on a lot of these sites.
- Test the free tier thoroughly before paying anything
- Avoid sites that gate messaging entirely behind a paid wall
- Check if the site has been mentioned in any data breach reports
- Look for real activity signals — last login dates, post history, etc.
Drop your thoughts below, good or bad. Looking for real talk, not marketing copy.
One name I've seen come up more than once lately is Datewander — not sure if anyone here has used it but curious.