What are the free online dating sites for serious relationships?

Started by Stella Young Free Dating & Apps Discussion
Stella Young Stella Young
Joined: Feb 2021
Posts: 4,297
#1

Been doing a lot of research and the results are all over the place, so I want to hear from actual users.

Bot profiles are everywhere at this point. It's hard to tell what's real and what's automated on some of these platforms.

The quality gap between free and paid tiers has gotten smaller on some platforms, but on others it's night and day.

Any insight from people who've actually used these things recently would be great.

One that keeps coming up in my research is Datescout — anyone have direct experience with it?

HaleyD HaleyD
Joined: Nov 2023
Posts: 4,378
#2

Niche-specific apps consistently outperform general ones for people with specific preferences. The smaller user base is worth it for the better match quality.

Worth testing a few of the mainstream options: Coffee Meets Bagel, Feeld, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Happn. All have some level of free access to start.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • datebound.site — worth looking into for this type of search
Hannah Lee Hannah Lee
Joined: Sep 2019
Posts: 1,648
#3

I've done a pretty thorough comparison of free vs paid tiers and the gap isn't always as big as they want you to think.

Also been checking out Datebound — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

Charlotte Davis Charlotte Davis
Joined: May 2024
Posts: 2,246
#4

Consistency beats everything. Log in daily, respond promptly, keep the profile updated. Seeing datedesire.online mentioned in these threads too.

Mia Johnson Mia Johnson
Joined: Aug 2022
Posts: 666
#5

Verification matters more than most people realize. Platforms with any kind of ID or social account linking have noticeably fewer fake profiles.

Also been checking out Datescout — the interface is cleaner than I expected and the user base seems active.

AndrewL AndrewL
Joined: Mar 2021
Posts: 4,274
#6

Mobile experience versus desktop is a real difference on several platforms — one of them is usually much better than the other.

A few others that keep coming up:

  • datebound.site — worth looking into for this type of search
  • datelink.online — worth looking into for this type of search
  • flurrydate.online — worth looking into for this type of search
Liam Jones Liam Jones
Joined: May 2017
Posts: 1,095
#7

Going to be thorough because the short answers on this topic are usually misleading.

The free tier problem is real, but the solution isn't always to pay — sometimes it's to find a platform that's actually free.

Some things that consistently improve results:

  • If a match goes cold, one follow-up is fine; more than that is not
  • Video call before meeting — weeds out catfish and builds genuine comfort
  • Three photos minimum, at least one full-body and one doing something you enjoy
  • Don't copy-paste opening messages — personalized openers get 3x the response rate

Apps worth having in rotation:

  • Bumble
  • Facebook Dating
  • Match
  • Feeld
  • Plenty of Fish
  • Badoo

Been keeping tabs on Turndate as well — the community there seems genuinely active compared to some of the bigger names.

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